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Just a few months back and COVID-19 was a phrase none of us had heard of. Now, it’s fundamentally changed the way we interact with one another. Lockdown, isolation, and physical distancing rules mean that for many people dating and sex have been put firmly on hold.

Although it’s for the greater good, it’s also confusing and frustrating. That’s why in this article we do our best to answer some of your common questions around sex and COVID-19. If you have any other questions, reach out to Nurse Nettie who answers your questions anonymously within 24 hours

Can I have casual sex?

Even though the Government is relaxing some of the isolation and lockdown rules, physical distancing advice is still in place. This means that, right now, casual sex is not recommended. We know it’s frustrating, but by following the rules on physical distancing we will hopefully be able to stop the spread of COVID-19.

Is COVID-19 an STI?

COVID-19 is not an STI, but it is passed on through close contact with other people. Sex definitely counts as close contact, which is why it’s not recommended right now.

When should I get tested for COVID-19?

COVID-19 is really contagious and can cause serious health problems, even if you’re young and healthy. You can catch and spread it without knowing and before you have symptoms, placing everyone at risk. So even if you have mild symptoms like a cough, sore throat or a fever, or you’re just feeling a bit off, make sure you get tested right away. Getting tested for COVID-19 is safe, easy, and free. Get more information or find your local testing clinic on the NSW government website.

What if I decide to have casual sex anyway?

Casual sex puts you and others at risk of contracting and spreading COVID-19, which can lead to serious health problems. Keep an eye on the NSW government website so you’re aware of current restrictions on movement.

If you do decide to continue to have sex, take precautions to stay as safe as possible.

  • Take a shower first and thoroughly wash your face and hands to prevent the spread of bacteria.
  • Prepster in the UK makes other suggestions such as avoiding kissing, minimising the number of hookups you have, or trying hookups that don’t include touching (focusing on masturbation instead).
  • Remember the usual safe sex rules apply. Use a condom and get tested regularly (you can even get STI tests online).

Alright…I hear you. But if I can’t have sex, what can I do? I’m going crazy right now.

Although sex might be off the cards for a while, there’s still plenty of ways to keep busy.

  • Masturbation: It’s natural, harmless, satisfying and now is the ideal time to perfect your technique.
  • Hot Messaging: Just because you can’t touch doesn’t mean you can’t talk about it. Hot messaging is the ideal solution just remember to follow these simple safety tips.
  • Sex toys: Whether it’s just with yourself or with your partner, using sex toys is a great way to give pleasure without human contact. Here’s how to have fun and stay safe using them.
  • Phone sex: Why not go old school instead? Pick up the phone, and try your hand at some dirty talk.
  • Video chat: Fancy a side of pictures with your phone sex? We’re pretty sure that this is why video chat was invented in the first place. Or at least it’s a great use for it anyway!

I’m in a monogamous relationship, can we have sex?

Any close contact with another person increases your risk of COVID-19. It’s important to talk to each other, assess your situation and make that decision together. Sex could be okay for partner/s who are living together, or partner/s where each party has been practicing physical distancing from other people.

If you show any COVID-19 symptoms or are self-isolating then sex is definitely off the table for at least 14 days. If you want more tips on how to keep your relationship healthy during COVID-19, check out this thread on the Play Safe forum.

Can I still date?

Now is not the time to start heading off on dates with strangers, but if you do go for one, try something like a physical distancing walk which will enable you to stay 1.5 meters apart. But truthfully? Virtually is the best way to meet someone right now. Why not try downloading some dating apps and taking your date on one of these virtual dates?

It’s still too early to know when things might go back to normal. Until then, keep following the physical distancing rules set by the government and let’s stop the spread together. And who knows? Maybe a hidden upside of COVID-19 is that your messaging and phone sex skills are about to get seriously good.