Wish you knew

[Kit]

@Caiti I know right? The worst feeling… :#

[NickiPower]

That there’s no shame in getting checked out for STIs. We make sure that we’re physically healthy so why do we instantly think horrible thoughts about getting a clean bill of sexual health? 

[Curiosity]

A little sex-positivity would have went a long way! Rather than shaming you for thinking about doing any sexual act when you were a teenager. It took me until half way through University to not feel shameful for engaging in sexual activity.

[Kit]

^^^ Yes! @Curiosity

A great big hug and an ‘it’s all ok’ would have gone a long way as a teen…

[peachy]

My sex ed was terrible so there are so many things I missed out on haha! Some acknowledgement that queer sex exists and issues surrounding it would have been so helpful!

@The_Beep – I’ve replicated a few no no’s from porn too! Would have been so much better if my sex ed had cleared up how to have healthier sex much earlier on (like using condoms when having oral sex and how amazing lube is).

I totally agree too @Curiosity, you shouldn’t have to experience a super painful UTI to learn they exist!! 

[EarthMama]

I wish I had learned TECHNIQUES!!! 😉 we’re probably not close to being that sex positive in schools yet, hey? 

[Kit]

Haha isn’t that the part that scares people these days…?

[peachy]

@EarthMama omg that would’ve been amazing at school! So embarrassing – I remember looking up positions on wikipedia because I was so clueless on how to actually have sex!

[EarthMama]

@peachy That is too funny!! When I was 12, and google was weirdly holding onto all search memory and consistently popping up with it- I typed in ‘how to kiss’. It was a shared family computer and I was humiliated… 

[TinyTeddy]

I wish I had known that smegma is normal! Ahhh all the anxiety that could of been avoided.

[Purple]

That if you contract an STI – regardless of whether it’s curable or not, you are still a really wonderful person and you still deserve to be loved. There was just so much shame and stigma around it. I remember six or so months ago one of my closest friends was diagnosed with herpes and she became very suicidal, I never want that to happen to anyone again. 

[peachy]

@EarthMama omg that’s so sweet!!  <3 😀
@jessica 100%! Herpes stigma can be especially awful – it’s the punchline of so many jokes in shows/movies so you worry that partners won’t be understanding and you’re constantly worried you’ll pass it on. It would be so good if sex ed made it clear that it’s so common.

[DeftRat]

I wish I knew that when having anal sex that poo is inevitable. I don’t know why but I just seemed to expect that it would be clean every time.  It won’t necessarily happen every time but it will end up on a condom or on sheets.  It means the person is eating which is always a plus (kinda need to eat to live). I am still a little mortified when it happens and it kinda ruins the mood, but I am getting used to the fact it’s ok when it happens and it’s not a big deal. Everybody poops

[EarthMama]

@jessica Totally agree about the stigma surrounding herpes. A similar thing happened to a friend of mine who had a very active sex life and she was totally devastated. It took her a while to gain back her confidence, but thankfully it hasn’t affected her too much in the long run. It seemed as if fighting through that mental bias was a huge battle for her. 

[MintMilano]

@DeftRat totally agree, and add to that the inevitable farts of escaping air and all those fun physiological extras that some with butt stuff  😀

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