Great minds @piperr42!
I think outdated ideas of gender and femininity definitely play a role in the way we view body hair, @champagnepapi. I remember in high school we were talking about dominant and recessive traits and seeing what one we had. One trait was hair on the fingers (close to your knuckles). I was soooo embarrassed that I was the…[Read more]
Sorry to hear that @GoldenRose! That’s always really difficult. I’ve had a few friendship fizzle because we had just become incompatible. It’s funny how significant change can be over time. But, I’ve also learned to look at it positively – while it’s sad to lose a friendship, it’s sort of comforting to know that I’m getting more secure in who I am…[Read more]
A bit better @earthmama! I went out to eat for the first time since about March. While it was really nice to sit and relax and enjoy some company, I found that it’s still not quite normal for me. Ordinarily I’d hang about and look for things to do, but I found that once I was done eating I just wanted to leave.
It’ll probably take a lot more to…[Read more]
Half because of quarantine and half because…well, why not, I’ve let the majority of my body hair grow out. The other day, I was about to shave my legs before seeing my partner and just stopped because I couldn’t find a reason to shave, aside from habit. I don’t mind having leg hair. And it struck me as so weird that despite being a young adult,…[Read more]
I’m reading the Wind Up Bird Chronicle by Haruki Murakami right now. There’s plenty of unexpected twists driving the plot which I’m really enjoying, but a lot of the secondary characters (particularly women) are a little one dimensional, which takes away from things a little bit.
Next on my list is Minority Report by Philip K. Dick. I LOVE sci-fi!
I’m so happy you felt that way after coming out to your boyfriend @stephaniaaaah! That’s so wonderful!
That nagging voice is just the worse @GoldenRose. It’s funny – my nagging voice was always around when I was alone and thinking about how I felt. I was under zero pressure to question my sexuality, but just sort of had…the feeling I guess that…[Read more]
Aunt_Flo replied to the topic Fun (non-penetrative) sexual activities to do with your sexual partner/s? in the forum Sex & Relationships 3 years, 3 months ago
Jumped on to say the same as champagnepapi – I looooove kissing! And I could kiss for hours.
I’m also a big fan of a massage as a way of leading into things.
I think there’s always going to be people who are a bit ignorant, or who think they know your sexuality better than you do, @stephaniaaaah. It sucks that their opinion can hurt so much, even though it’s your sexuality, and you know yourself best!
I was scared for quite a while that people would think I was being silly, or seeking attention by com…[Read more]
I’ve seen more than handful of people assume pansexual meant polyamorous, so I definitely think more awareness is needed! I think it’s important to share that it’s different to bisexuality, but both are equally valid sexualities that exist on a spectrum.
To be honest @earthmama, having a dip in my sex drive has sort of made me reevaluate how I see myself, rather than how I see my relationship. We’re going okay through open communication (and a bit of frustration) but it happens! With my relationship with myself, it was like…if I’m not a sexual person, then who am I and what do I offer to a…[Read more]
I love seeing it as well! And it’s done in such an effortless way and, in the show, doesn’t take away from how sexy and intimate the situation is. If anything, it adds to it.
I’m enjoying the show so far @curiousss! I haven’t read the book but I’ve been told the show is a good adaptation.
I’m feeling the exact same @earthmama. Seeing how quickly some people have returned to normal after restrictions lifted has been quite a shock for me.
I love restaurants and dining out, but not enough to feel comfortable dining in just yet. I’m with you – I’m pretty nervous about rushing back into things, and would prefer to take things reall…[Read more]
So, like many, many other people I’ve started watching Normal People (on Stan).
The show features quite a lot of sex scenes and, along with it, really, really good examples of consent. Even in the very first sex scene, one character is very quick to ask ‘is this okay?’ and check that the other character both consents to the activity, and enjoys…[Read more]
It’s my eight year anniversary soon and, honestly? I’m not sure how to keep the spark alive!
I think the longer term the relationship, the more honest you can get about sex – there are times where you, your partner or even both of you might not be that interested in sex. I think that’s kind of normal, but can’t say for sure.
For me acknowled…[Read more]
One myth I heard was in the movie American Pie. A character suggests the guy she sleeps with uses two condoms at once to desensitise him. Huge no-no! Using two isn’t twice the protection – the friction between the two can actually cause them to break!
I also didn’t really have it drilled into me that condoms were needed during ora…[Read more]
It’s hard to say. I don’t think that porn in and of itself is the issue – I think ethical porn kind of proves that point.
For me, the issue is that porn is often violent, doesn’t show safe sex, doesn’t show consent, and is heavily geared towards males. When websites like PornHub are people’s main sources of porn, that’s the issue, because it…[Read more]
I’ve been trying to meditate a bit more to help me get off to sleep (spending so much time at home means I’m not feeling tired at bedtime – anyone else experiencing this?)
One of the things that often pop up in meditation is being grateful for what we have. To be honest, I can sometimes struggle with being grateful, and often get bogged down in…[Read more]
Aunt_Flo replied to the topic How to have a healthy relationship during COVID-19! in the forum Sex & Relationships 3 years, 4 months ago
@sextronaut I’m the same with running out of things to say! I’ve resumed a few hobbies that I’ve left behind, so it’s nice to have that to talk about, but I never realised how much of what I have to say comes from my day-to-day routine.
I don’t live with my partner, but we do stay over one another’s houses a lot, and we both live with parent…[Read more]