I haven’t been properly diagnosed, but I have a polycystic ovary and irregular periods, so it’s highly likely that I do. I second what @curiousss said about taking care of your mental health. I found that agnonising whether my weight gain, or bout of hair loss I was experiencing was because…[Read more]

I’d like to think I’m confident in asking…in theory. In reality, I don’t really think I do vocalise what I’d like out of fear of causing offence or killing the mood. It’s something I need to work on!

As much as these apps likely create a safe space for people with STIs to date without fear of stigma, it doesn’t necessarily do anything to change broader public opinion about it. It’s definitely just one step on the way towards eliminating the stigma and shame around getting tested and having an STI.

That said. I would hate for people who have an STI to feel limited to using those dating apps exclusively. They’re definitely great and I assume they would create a safe sp…[Read more]

I’ve not had to navigate any conversations around flirting – it’s just not something that’s ever come up and been a problem. But, we have had a pretty frank conversation about imaging what it would be like to date other people. To be honest, I think it relieved us both to admit that while we had no interest in break…[Read more]

Hmm, there could be a few reasons why someone wouldn’t be interested in a blow job. Mood can have a big impact on sex drive – being tired or having a bad day might be you’re not exactly in the mood for a blow job. They might just not be in the mood, period.

Another reason could be that they just don’t really enjoy receiving…[Read more]

I guess one way to ease into it would be to think about the up side of sleeping with a new person. Yes, it can be awkward, but it’s also a chance to connect with someone, learn about someone, and perhaps have…[Read more]

Is flirting with other people while you are in a relationship ever okay?

Have you done it? Did you discuss it with your partner at all? When does it cross the line and become not okay?

I don’t really have a worst, although I had to meet the parents once on a first date. It wasn’t bad, but very awkward!

Honestly, I haven’t thought too much about getting rid of the implant. Instead it’s starting making me focus on other aspects that can affect libido, like mood, and communicating with my partner.

I was looking to get it on the same arm as the implant. I’ll just warn the artist that I have the implant, and make sure the tattoo doesn’t go too close to the implant.

Thanks @nurse_nettie!

Hmm, that’s something to think about. Is getting it on the ‘front’ of the arm a safe enough distance between the implant and a tattoo, or should I just avoid the entire bicep/tricep area?

I’m looking to get a new tattoo on my arm, but it will be a bit close to my Implanon. Is a bit idea to get a tattoo near the device? I’m not aiming to get it directly on the implant, but it will cutting it fine.

I’m also a sucker for the Bachelor franchise, but the lack of diversity is pretty ridiculous, and it’s not very representative of what Australia actually looks like. There’s no excuse for it.

I remember in one particular season of the Bachelor, they…[Read more]

It can be annoying to have to jump out of bed and into the bathroom, but I’d much rather kill the mood than deal with all the stinging from a UTI.

I think outdated ideas of gender and femininity definitely play a role in the way we view body hair, @champagnepapi. I remember in high school we were talking about dominant and recessive traits and seeing what one we had. One trait was hair on the fingers (close to your knuckles). I was soooo embarrassed that I was the…[Read more]

It’ll probably take a lot more to…[Read more]

Next on my list is Minority Report by Philip K. Dick. I LOVE sci-fi!

That nagging voice is just the worse @GoldenRose. It’s funny – my nagging voice was always around when I was alone and thinking about how I felt. I was under zero pressure to question my sexuality, but just sort of had…the feeling I guess that…[Read more]

I’m also a big fan of a massage as a way of leading into things.

I was scared for quite a while that people would think I was being silly, or seeking attention by com…[Read more]

This has got to be one of my favourite representations of pansexuality – from the TV show…[Read more]

I’m enjoying the show so far @curiousss! I haven’t read the book but I’ve been told the show is a good adaptation.

I love restaurants and dining out, but not enough to feel comfortable dining in just yet. I’m with you – I’m pretty nervous about rushing back into things, and would prefer to take things reall…[Read more]

The show features quite a lot of sex scenes and, along with it, really, really good examples of consent. Even in the very first sex scene, one character is very quick to ask ‘is this okay?’ and check that the other character both consents to the activity, and enjoys…[Read more]

I think the longer term the relationship, the more honest you can get about sex – there are times where you, your partner or even both of you might not be that interested in sex. I think that’s kind of normal, but can’t say for sure.

For me acknowled…[Read more]

One myth I heard was in the movie American Pie. A character suggests the guy she sleeps with uses two condoms at once to desensitise him. Huge no-no! Using two isn’t twice the protection – the friction between the two can actually cause them to break!

I also didn’t really have it drilled into me that condoms were needed during ora…[Read more]

For me, the issue is that porn is often violent, doesn’t show safe sex, doesn’t show consent, and is heavily geared towards males. When websites like PornHub are people’s main sources of porn, that’s the issue, because it…[Read more]

One of the things that often pop up in meditation is being grateful for what we have. To be honest, I can sometimes struggle with being grateful, and often get bogged down in…[Read more]

I don’t live with my partner, but we do stay over one another’s houses a lot, and we both live with parent…[Read more]

I’ve been:
– Making a sourdough starter (I cant find yeast anywhere!)
– Practising yoga
– Playing Animal Crossing
– Cooking a whole heap
– Reading and journaling
– Doing 1000 piece puzzles
– Trying to get back into art – I was thinking of following an online watercolour tutorial or s…[Read more]

I’ve b…[Read more]

It’s interesting that now, if people still want to date, they’ll have to rely on verbal communication a lot more, rather than body language or physical chemistry.

I’ve been enjoying working from home so far. Not travelling to and from work has freed up time (and headspace) for me to clean, so my work area is nice right now. I’ve been burning a candle daily, and making myself a nice tea or coffee each day.

I’m actually finding it hard to…[Read more]

I genuinely don’t know what the cause could be. I got off the pill and switched to the implant mid last year, which could be one reason. But I’m also more…[Read more]

Good on you for taking the time to appreciate and work on yourself. 🙂 🙂

@earthmama makes a great point – you can take confidence knowing that you’ve done this before, and you can do this again. Relationships…[Read more]

I’d probably stick to using pill form of EC as well, but it’s so cool that this option is out there and that, once you’ve got it, you’re unlikely to need EC again because it’s effective birth control! That’s so cool!

According to an article on Buzzfeed only 13% of surveyed women knew that copper IUDs could be used as eme…[Read more]

I’m with @stephaniaaaah – coming from a gentle, calm place will really help the conversation. I think by focusing on your concern for your friend, rather than just her partner, might…[Read more]