It feels like life has been returning to normal in slow motion with restrictions being slowly lifted but also not really… I went out to the pub last week and it has been so strange having to sit at the same table the whole time.…[Read more]
@aunt_flo, I totally relate to quarantine being a perfect time to let body hair grow out! I was the same as you and have been shaving since I was a young teen and it has actually been so awesome seeing my body hair grow its own way!
I totally agree that having a partner mention my grooming during sex is the biggest mood killer ever! For the most…[Read more]
That’s so interesting @aunt_flo, I suppose most things do come back to how we see ourselves. I am really glad for you that the experience came an opportunity for you to take stock of who you are in the absence of your sex drive. I think it is easy to forget how much emphasis we place on elements of our identity until we are left without them,…[Read more]
I love this post so much!
I really resonate with what you are saying @stephaniaaaah and @aunt_flo, especially where you said: “I’m actually a bit afraid of being confident in my sexuality, because of the nagging feeling in the back of my head that asks if I don’t actually like girls, because I’ve never dated a woman.”
I feel like it is clear…[Read more]
Oh that is such a good analogy @aunt_flo!
Thanks so much for sharing @stephaniaaaah I completely understand where you are coming from and can definitely relate (I’ll jump on the other post and elaborate from my previous reply in that thread :))
I’m sure it would have been hard to come to that realisation as I feel like there is a lot of…[Read more]
100% love this @aunt_flo and think that I am experiencing many of the same thought you did in that ‘being silly’ or ‘attention seeking’
The reality is like you say is that when I came out to my boyfriend he was like that’s rad, I am happy for you and nothing changes for us and it felt SO DAMN RIGHT AND GOOD AND MADE SENSE!!! Just to vocalise it…[Read more]
It’s so validating to hear you both feel the same way @aunt_flo and @goldenrose! I learned just today that there is something known as ‘reintegration anxiety’ which pretty much explains alot of the feelings we are having about things going back to some sense of normality. It is also known as ‘reverse culture shock’ and can happen when we return…[Read more]
@aunt_flo 8 years!! That’s bloody amazing, congratulations! And thank you for sharing your lived experience with us, it’s very reassuring to know that it’s not only common, but normal to be grappling with these things.
Yay I am so excited about this conversation @aunt_flo. I am deeply in love with Normal People right now and truly found the examples of consent throughout so sexy. I love how the moments taken for consent highlight the sensitivity of the individuals and their concern for one another. Suffice to say, I totally love it and I think it is clever the…[Read more]
It is great to hear your honest opinion and lived experience @aunt_flo. Do you ever worry what the lack of spark will mean for your relationship now or down the track. Obviously, this is a totally normal and expected experience, but I wonder how it feels for you in the midst of it and whether it makes you second guess anything?
Ahh so many myths! The one that worries me the most is the lack of education around the need for condoms during oral sex @aunt_flo. I feel as if the lack of education has created a culture where it is normalised to NOT use one, and therefore it feels like a huge barrier to break to expect a partner to use a condom during oral sex. I always feel…[Read more]
Love all these ideas! I have gone through my bookshelf and separated all the books I’ve bought but never read and I am determined to read them! Will keep you posted though 😉
Exciting about your sourdough starter @aunt_flo !!
EarthMama replied to the topic How to look after yourself when the new normal is uncertainty (the COVID thread) in the forum Hanging Out 3 months, 2 weeks ago
Agreed on being off the idea of not gaining weight during isolation @stephaniaaaah! It is so totally fatphobic to deny ourselves comfort during a time that is so uncertain.
@aunt_flo I am so glad you are setting those boundaries for yourself! I am also so done with all the articles about optimisation during this time. It honestly just feels like…[Read more]
@earthmama @aunt_flo @stephaniaaaah, a lot of sexual health services are changing due to the impact of COVID 19. Unfortunately Transtest which is a partnership with ACON and Kirkton Road Centre is closed indefinitely. The same with Check Out service. Currently the best way to find out what services for HIV & STI testing are near you, is to call…[Read more]
stephaniaaaah replied to the topic How to feel sexy again in a relationship when your body confidence is low in the forum Sex & Relationships 4 months, 3 weeks ago
you are so right @earthmama I really wanted to to focus on key body love points like reminding myself that my value is not based on my looks and also to reassess my health goals.
The first week after the comment was…[Read more]
Wow I had no idea either @aunt_flo and it gives you a couple of extra day’s but TBH I’d rather just pop to my pharmacy the morning after and buy the pill over the counter than go in and get an IUD. I also wonder about booking the IUD appointment with Family Planning in the five day time period. But really great to know and I’d like to see FPNSW…[Read more]