Aunt_Flo

Hey @goldenrose and @aunt_flo

I am a reality TV junky so loved reading this thread.

Totally agree on dating shows having a massive lack of representation across sexuality, body types and race.

I did recently watch a MTV US series called Are you the One? (Season 8 – Come One, Come All)

Which was the first-ever season of the show where all…[Read more]

Hi @aunt_flo, it’s a good question! The main concern is the risk of the Implant breaking & not providing contraceptive cover. Although tattooing may go to different depth in the skin to the implanon, the pressure applied may cause breakage. Generally the advice is to get a tattoo first & then the Implanon inserted after…or choose a different…[Read more]

@earthmama @aunt_flo @goldenrose Definitely share the experience of having difficulty readjusting to normality!

It feels like life has been returning to normal in slow motion with restrictions being slowly lifted but also not really… I went out to the pub last week and it has been so strange having to sit at the same table the whole time.…[Read more]

@aunt_flo, I totally relate to quarantine being a perfect time to let body hair grow out! I was the same as you and have been shaving since I was a young teen and it has actually been so awesome seeing my body hair grow its own way!

I totally agree that having a partner mention my grooming during sex is the biggest mood killer ever! For the most…[Read more]

Just adding some yes, yes, yes to all of the above @stephaniaaaah @aunt_flo @goldenrose. I have come out to my family and friends, but because there is very little ‘evidence’ of my queerness in the form of my relationships, I feel like I have to come out again on an almost monthly basis.

That’s so interesting @aunt_flo, I suppose most things do come back to how we see ourselves. I am really glad for you that the experience came an opportunity for you to take stock of who you are in the absence of your sex drive. I think it is easy to forget how much emphasis we place on elements of our identity until we are left without them,…[Read more]

How are you feeling now @goldenrose @aunt_flo ?? I was hoping I would feel ready by this stage, but after one afternoon of seeing my friends, I felt like I needed to sleep for three days…

I love this post so much!

I really resonate with what you are saying @stephaniaaaah and @aunt_flo, especially where you said: “I’m actually a bit afraid of being confident in my sexuality, because of the nagging feeling in the back of my head that asks if I don’t actually like girls, because I’ve never dated a woman.”

I feel like it is clear…[Read more]

Oh that is such a good analogy @aunt_flo!

Thanks so much for sharing @stephaniaaaah I completely understand where you are coming from and can definitely relate (I’ll jump on the other post and elaborate from my previous reply in that thread :))

I’m sure it would have been hard to come to that realisation as I feel like there is a lot of…[Read more]

100% love this @aunt_flo and think that I am experiencing many of the same thought you did in that ‘being silly’ or ‘attention seeking’

The reality is like you say is that when I came out to my boyfriend he was like that’s rad, I am happy for you and nothing changes for us and it felt SO DAMN RIGHT AND GOOD AND MADE SENSE!!! Just to vocalise it…[Read more]

It’s so validating to hear you both feel the same way @aunt_flo and @goldenrose! I learned just today that there is something known as ‘reintegration anxiety’ which pretty much explains alot of the feelings we are having about things going back to some sense of normality. It is also known as ‘reverse culture shock’ and can happen when we return…[Read more]

@aunt_flo 8 years!! That’s bloody amazing, congratulations! And thank you for sharing your lived experience with us, it’s very reassuring to know that it’s not only common, but normal to be grappling with these things.

@EarthMama I can’t say I’m looking to explore non-monogamy in my next relationship for sure but I do like reading around it and…[Read more]

Yay I am so excited about this conversation @aunt_flo. I am deeply in love with Normal People right now and truly found the examples of consent throughout so sexy. I love how the moments taken for consent highlight the sensitivity of the individuals and their concern for one another. Suffice to say, I totally love it and I think it is clever the…[Read more]

It is great to hear your honest opinion and lived experience @aunt_flo. Do you ever worry what the lack of spark will mean for your relationship now or down the track. Obviously, this is a totally normal and expected experience, but I wonder how it feels for you in the midst of it and whether it makes you second guess anything?

@champagnepapi I…[Read more]

Ahh so many myths! The one that worries me the most is the lack of education around the need for condoms during oral sex @aunt_flo. I feel as if the lack of education has created a culture where it is normalised to NOT use one, and therefore it feels like a huge barrier to break to expect a partner to use a condom during oral sex. I always feel…[Read more]

Love all these ideas! I have gone through my bookshelf and separated all the books I’ve bought but never read and I am determined to read them! Will keep you posted though 😉
Exciting about your sourdough starter @aunt_flo !!

Agreed on being off the idea of not gaining weight during isolation @stephaniaaaah! It is so totally fatphobic to deny ourselves comfort during a time that is so uncertain.
@aunt_flo I am so glad you are setting those boundaries for yourself! I am also so done with all the articles about optimisation during this time. It honestly just feels like…[Read more]

@earthmama @aunt_flo @stephaniaaaah, a lot of sexual health services are changing due to the impact of COVID 19. Unfortunately Transtest which is a partnership with ACON and Kirkton Road Centre is closed indefinitely. The same with Check Out service. Currently the best way to find out what services for HIV & STI testing are near you, is to call…[Read more]

Yes they do @aunt_flo !! How great is that!? I have been thinking a lot about how testing clinics will be affected during COVID…

Hey @earthmama and @aunt_flo thanks both so much for your kind words.. I have some updates on how we are progressing at the moment

you are so right @earthmama I really wanted to to focus on key body love points like reminding myself that my value is not based on my looks and also to reassess my health goals.

The first week after the comment was…[Read more]