champagnepapi replied to the topic Having sex with new partners after a long term relationship in the forum Sex & Relationships 2 days, 16 hours ago
@yogigirl sorry to hear about your split! I hope you are taking some time for yourself and self care 🙂
I think when that time comes you should be very very compassionate with yourself and take things slowly if you’re not comfortable being with new people. Why not get to know someone for a few weeks/months and let things unfold organically and at…[Read more]
Great question @aunt_flo! I’m always keen to hear the spectrum of opinions that invariably come up in this debate.
Personally, I’ve grappled with issues of jealousy and possessiveness for YEARS, ever since my first relationship. It’s not something I’ve ever been able to get comfortable with, and I attribute that to my attachment style (highly…[Read more]
Hi @kris, welcome to Play Safe! Sorry to hear you’re not having the best time during online dating, it can be really difficult!
That said, I encourage you to take the pressure off yourself and treat it like any other conversation! Don’t think you have to put on a certain “flirty” act, sometimes genuine conversations go a lot further. Ultimately I…[Read more]
champagnepapi replied to the topic Spill the beans. What’s your best or worst dating story? in the forum Sexual Health 1 week, 3 days ago
Yikes @PotPlant, sounds like quite the experience! I can’t say anything quite as strange but I do regret one date where I ended up hooking up with him in his car, not my classiest moment hahahaha.
champagnepapi replied to the topic Have you ever asked anyone to have an STI test? What was their reaction? in the forum Sex & Relationships 1 week, 6 days ago
I have actually, in my first relationship. I was a virgin and my partner had had significant sexual experience so I did it as a way of looking out for myself. They were more than happy to go get tested thankfully!
@explorer33 I second @yogigirl in saying I’m not a huuuuge fan of receiving oral, it just doesn’t do much for me. If it’s an act that you really enjoy or think is an important part of your sex life, I really encourage having a chat to your partner about how to incorporate it more frequently 🙂 it really is a “how long is a piece of string” sort of…[Read more]
@bed-buddies super interesting to think about this from a business owner’s perspective, thanks for sharing! I agree that having tasteful and professional information out there for people (whether that’s a 14 year old lurker or someone more grown) will never hurt and may actually undo some of the harmful programming we tend to receive from…[Read more]
champagnepapi replied to the topic Fun (non-penetrative) sexual activities to do with your sexual partner/s? in the forum Sex & Relationships 4 months ago
@earthmama how could I forget about neck kissing! And yes I think you’re totally right, it’s often the most non overtly sexual acts that are the most sensual and intimate. I’m all for exploring that side of intimacy more – the touching, eye contact, build up before the main event. 🙂
I only shave my bikini area but try to get all of the rest of my body hair. As much as I would love to, I’m yet to get to the stage of being comfortable showing leg or armpit hair when wearing skirts/tanktops. Unfortunately, I don’t think I’m the only individual for whom the patriarchy plays an influential role in body hair removal decisions…[Read more]
champagnepapi replied to the topic I’m still a virgin but sorta feel like an odd one out! 😅 in the forum Sex & Relationships 4 months ago
Thank you for being brave and sharing your thoughts with us! I certainly felt the same when I was about to lose my virginity but wasn’t necessarily confident enough to voice my insecurities out loud.
I really admire that you’re waiting for someone who is going to respect you, that’s one of the key components of a healthy and…[Read more]
champagnepapi replied to the topic Fun (non-penetrative) sexual activities to do with your sexual partner/s? in the forum Sex & Relationships 4 months, 3 weeks ago
It’s great to hear you’re having a good time with your partner @SpookyFries!
I’m gonna go a bit old school and say I absolutely love making out – I could do it for a long time without getting tired of it, so much fun.
@earthmama I completely agree! ‘Using your words’ can definitely be difficult at times, especially in front of someone you’re about to be/already are intimate with. I saw this quote on instagram the other day which was like “we’re often most afraid to talk about sex with the person we’re having it with” or something along those lines which really…[Read more]
Thanks for this @goldenrose! And happy Pansexual & Panromantic Awareness and Visibility Day to any lurkers out there! We see you and love you.
I personally love this term because it encapsulates all the nuances of the gender spectrum, and feels much more inclusive than bisexuality which operates on a binary. There definitely should be more…[Read more]
@aunt_flo 8 years!! That’s bloody amazing, congratulations! And thank you for sharing your lived experience with us, it’s very reassuring to know that it’s not only common, but normal to be grappling with these things.
I personally LOVE seeing characters take consent seriously on TV! It’s such a step in the right direction for the kinds of messaging we need as young people.
Something I find kind of bizarre is the number of people out there who think implicit consent is enough to go through with sex. For example I was having a chat with a male friend of mine who…[Read more]
@nurse_nettie while we’re on this topic I thought I’d ask about something that’s quite confusing for me. I log my periods in an app and I’ve noticed that every 6 months my cycle seems to do a “reset” kind of thing where I’ll have an unusually long cycle (more than 40 days) and then the following cycle will return to 28 days for the next few…[Read more]
That is super interesting @earthmama! I can’t say I’ve heard of the concept of compartmentalising to that degree, I imagine it’d be pretty hard to do in practice too.
I’ve always been someone for whom sex is as much an emotional connection as it is a spiritual one so I wonder how it’d play out for me. I’ll certainly try it in my next relationship…[Read more]