YogiGirl replied to the topic Having sex with new partners after a long term relationship in the forum Sex & Relationships 6 days, 21 hours ago
Thanks @champagnepapi and @aunt_flo 🙂 It’s definitely been weird getting used to single life after such a long time with the same person! I’ve been taking lots of time to explore new hobbies and getting my new home set up, so it’s all feeling very positive.
Thanks for the great advice. I think as i’m not wanting to rush into anything the slow…[Read more]
Mhmm true @champagnepapi.
I’ve not had to navigate any conversations around flirting – it’s just not something that’s ever come up and been a problem. But, we have had a pretty frank conversation about imaging what it would be like to date other people. To be honest, I think it relieved us both to admit that while we had no interest in break…[Read more]
Aunt_Flo replied to the topic Having sex with new partners after a long term relationship in the forum Sex & Relationships 1 month, 1 week ago
I’m with @champagnepapi – There’s no need to rush into anything, or force yourself to be comfortable with seeing new people straight away.
I guess one way to ease into it would be to think about the up side of sleeping with a new person. Yes, it can be awkward, but it’s also a chance to connect with someone, learn about someone, and perhaps have…[Read more]
Hey @kris, I totally know what you mean that it can be challenging to flirt online. I would agree with @champagnepapi that it takes the pressure to ‘flirt’ off if you treat it like a conversation. Be chatty and always be yourself. I would also say that I find emojis useful to lighten the tone and be a bit more cheeky. Throw a wink in there every…[Read more]
@champagnepapi Absolutely. Social media advertising is one of the mainstream methods of advertising, primarily because of its ability to retarget users who have already seen your site/page/product. We have all been subjected to retargeting on facebook. You look at something, say product X, or service Y, then all of a sudden you keep seeing stuff…[Read more]
Hey @champagnepapi, it can be a real challenge! I have found that as time goes on and the ‘honeymoon’ phase ends you get comfortable with each other (which is great) but the intense passion can fizzle out. It can be fun to try something different like toys to get some excitement, or maybe role play?
In terms of the non-monogamy, I think it works…[Read more]
Great minds @piperr42!
I think outdated ideas of gender and femininity definitely play a role in the way we view body hair, @champagnepapi. I remember in high school we were talking about dominant and recessive traits and seeing what one we had. One trait was hair on the fingers (close to your knuckles). I was soooo embarrassed that I was the…[Read more]
Patchelor replied to the topic I’m still a virgin but sorta feel like an odd one out! 😅 in the forum Sex & Relationships 5 months, 1 week ago
Thanks for your advice and thoughts @champagnepapi !
I guess being a 30yr old male, I only know a handful of mates who are still virgins but a lot of other friends I know for sure aren’t 😅 but yeah I’m not ashamed or afraid of still being a virgin and I definitely don’t judge anyone who is not a virgin, as I believe sex, love and intimacy is a…[Read more]
To be honest @earthmama, having a dip in my sex drive has sort of made me reevaluate how I see myself, rather than how I see my relationship. We’re going okay through open communication (and a bit of frustration) but it happens! With my relationship with myself, it was like…if I’m not a sexual person, then who am I and what do I offer to a…[Read more]
@champagnepapi super interesting to think about implicit consent and how risking it is to not obtain complicit consent. I think this highlights our cultural discomfort with verbalising and passionately expressing what we really want, as well as our reluctance to hear it from other people. It’s as if we would prefer to bumble through not knowing…[Read more]
@champagnepapi I totally hear you on this and it likely that you would have to get over these things. There is a great episode on ‘You Can’t Ask That’ (which is freely available online) that chats with people in non-monogamous relationships. I love the way a particular couple is super honest about how they’ve dealt with envy over the years but…[Read more]
It is great to hear your honest opinion and lived experience @aunt_flo. Do you ever worry what the lack of spark will mean for your relationship now or down the track. Obviously, this is a totally normal and expected experience, but I wonder how it feels for you in the midst of it and whether it makes you second guess anything?
@champagnepapi am I being hopelessly romantic? I must admit I agree with you…even though my wildest dreams look a little different, until with have a viable replacement, I do think they are here to stay.
Hi @champagnepapi, it’s great that you’re keeping a log of your periods & are keeping aware of changes. Having a period is a result of a complex hormonal cycle that ranges over 4 to 6 weeks (21-42 days). In fact no period cycle is exactly the same as the one before. It may mean that every 6 months your cycle lasts longer.
A common reason for no…[Read more]
Hi @tea, if it’s a true period, I’d agree with @champagnepapi. Even if you’re usually pretty regular, a week early or late can be normal. However, bleeding between periods can be a sign of infection. If the bleeding is much lighter or heavier than what’s usual for you or if you’re experiencing pain, especially pain with penetrative sex, then it’s…[Read more]
@champagnepapi @auntflo yes!!!
Aiden all the way! I genuinely am still confused about what Carrie sees in Big…he just seems majorly obnoxious, non-committal and a little boring honestly :/
I completely love Aiden’s honesty and vulnerability and dedication to fostering a meaningful relationship. I really think he is one of the truest characters…[Read more]
Nurse_Nettie replied to the topic In this era of technology, is hypochondriasis on the rise? in the forum Sexual Health 2 years, 1 month ago
Hi @champagnepapi & @ekoorb9, these are all good points. The web contains a lot of accessible info, however like @tea says – people do need to think about how valid some sites are. Some information is outdated or in the context of a different country. Some sites claim to be about health & wellbeing however are generally relying on advertising &…[Read more]
ekoorb9 replied to the topic In this era of technology, is hypochondriasis on the rise? in the forum Sexual Health 2 years, 1 month ago
@champagnepapi @tea I also had to Google it. Never heard of it! Maybe @nurse_nettie can shed some light on what it is and if it’s something we should be thinking about.
I think it’s only a good thing that people are paying more attention to their sexual health (or any health at all) but it is such a fine line between being empowered and falling…[Read more]
tea replied to the topic In this era of technology, is hypochondriasis on the rise? in the forum Sexual Health 2 years, 1 month ago
@champagnepapi Honestly had to google trichomoniasis because I’d never heard of it either! It’s unfortunate that they felt the need to justify the need for any test at all as well tbh
I mean, places like Play Safe definitely help haha! But like, I am very very guilty of heading straight to google to put in all my symptoms and then usually end up…[Read more]
@champagnepapi I’ve read that too! It puts a sexy spin on the communication.
@tea I used to be really into dirty talk and then sort of…stopped? I guess. Haha, I think I ran out of things to say as well. I notice I mainly just moan or use touch to indicate how I’m feeling, which seems to have the same effect tbh.
I really only speak up if…[Read more]