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[curiousgal]

Hey @electricmemes

Firstly, everything that @alt_j has said is 100% correct. There are so many tools you can draw upon to ground yourself and calm nerves before having sex for the first time.

It’s also really important to remember that sex isn’t just about reaching a climax or pleasuring your partner. It’s just as pleasure-able and special to experience that intimacy, regardless of the physical feelings that may or may not come from the act of sexual intercourse. Try to take a step back from the outcome of it all and just look forward to the experience itself. Don’t put pressure on yourself to perform because it’s absolutely not about that. Your girlfriend will be discovering things about her body during the process too and she may not even know what she likes or doesn’t like sexually yet, so it’s important to look at it like a mutual discovery rather than a platform for perfect performance.

Another thing that might be helpful to know is that sex for the first time, whether it’s the first time ever or just the first time with a new partner, always comes with nerves and is certainly not always a mind blowing experience. It takes time to get to know your own body and your partners and understand what each person wants from sex. It’ll be different each time.

The fact that you’re so thoughtful in considering how this will be for your partner is honestly miles ahead of many other sexual encounters that most people have. It will be wonderful because of your sentiment and thought and care. And again, agree with Alt_j – keep the communication open and honest!

[curiousgal]

This is such a good thread. Thank you so much for all your insight Nurse Nettie!

[curiousgal]

Yessss, loved this show! I binged the first two seasons and can’t wait for season three.

[curiousgal]

Amazing advice from Nurse Nettie and she’s right.
Penis size has never effected any sexual experience for myself or anyone I know – unless the person with the penis lets it.
Insecurity around it 100% is a way bigger mood killer than size.
So be proud of what you’re packing!

[curiousgal]

Totally agree! Personally I am not a fan of ‘bum-play’ yet I find a lot of guys seem to think most women enjoy this and will try it without asking. Asking first is always important.

[curiousgal]

I feel I have definitely experienced more than one type of orgasm.
An orgasm from clitoral stimulation feels different to one that seems to come from a ‘g-spot’ inside the vagina.

[curiousgal]

Am interested in this thread too…have never experienced this for myself but wondering if it’s an individual thing and some women do it and some don’t? Or if we’re all capable of it?

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