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  • #124137
    curiousss
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    I love seeing consent shown on TV! I think its so important to normalise consent and show people what is looks like and how normal and vital is it. We mimic so much from what we see.
    I need to start Normal People asap, I’ve heard so many good reviews!

    #124136
    curiousss
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    I love seeing consent shown on TV! I think its so important to normalise consent and show people what is looks like and how normal and vital is it. We mimic so much from what we see.
    I need to start Normal People asap, I’ve heard so many good reviews!

    #124064
    curiousss
    Moderator

    Hahaha @sextronaut that’s amazing! I can’t believe you also fit so much more in there haha

    One of the Condom Myth questions “True or False – You can use massage oil as lube with condoms” I remember always getting confused about types of lube because of breaking down condoms and silicone sex toys! Anyone else every get confused about this?

    I know now that its false as Massage oil breaks down the latex on condoms. And I also know now that while silicone-based lubes are safe for condoms they are not safe to use with silicone sex toys because they can break down the rubber over time.

    SO now I just remember to use water-based with toys and condoms because I know I can never go wrong haha! – Water-based Lube is great for all condoms and sex toys, and no confusion for me!

    #124029
    curiousss
    Moderator

    @earthmama So true about this time being a cooker pressure for relationships! Thank you for the kind thoughts.

    Update!@goldenrose So far we are doing better after we had a very big discussion (I think writing this here made me realise how much I needed to talk it out with them) the other night about our relationship during isolation and how we need to make time to be together and be present with each other.

    I spoke a lot about how I felt, what I was worried about and my expectations and we both agreed that it’s especially important during this time to put an extra effort into our relationship and to check in with how we are feeling. Since I’ve talked to my partner about how we’re feeling I have seen a major shift in their effort to check in with me which has been really nice.

    Some of the things we do differently is putting the screens away to spend more time together, we go for walks to the grocery store, spend more time cooking and eating proper meals together, check in on our feelings, and we don’t take it personally when we get the shits and get grumpy just like @stephaniaaaah talks about (very good advice btw)!

    Lets hope this lasts!! If anyone else is going through this please feel free to share your experiences or if you have any thoughts please share 🙂

    #124005
    curiousss
    Moderator

    Oooh thanks @goldenrose what a great article!
    I really agree communication is so important I’m definitely going to be as open as I can about how I’m feeling and my concerns about having space.
    Definitely going to try and designate our areas and we’re lucky we have two areas to spend time in.
    I liked the part in the article about spending time together that isn’t work or cleaning such as a hobby together we used to play a lot of card games while travelling maybe we can get back into that!

    #123994
    curiousss
    Moderator

    I am wondering how testing clinics will be affected during COVID-19 too!

    That’s good to know that you can call sexual health infolink for any questions.

    I wonder if people will start to get behind in their normal testing schedules during this time… but then I suppose a lot do people will be having a lot less sex wit multiple partners too.


    @stephaniaaaah
    I feel like i’m behind on the times, i didn’t realise
    there was online testing options!?

    #123993
    curiousss
    Moderator

    I was thinking about this too!
    Especially as with social distancing casual hookups and face to face dates can’t really be a thing right now.

    I agree with that post you mentioned @stephaniaaaah that if they try hookup during social distancing its a giant red flag.

    I guess I would expect a lot of people to be connecting more through messaging and video calls rather then face to face. I feel like this could be challenging for dating as I remember when I was dating on tinder I preferred to meet up after a week or two of chatting as it would give me a better understanding if we had a connection rather then just over messaging.

    I’d be interested to hear more from people in this situation!!

    #123991
    curiousss
    Moderator

    I haven’t considered LARC methods much! Thanks for the info i’ll look into it.

    #123799
    curiousss
    Moderator

    I really had no idea that copper IUD’s could be used as an emergency contraception! Its great to know that I have this option now and will now definitely consider it if i need emergency contraception in the future. I feel like I have a real lack of knowledge about IUD’s and i guess i’m not alone!

    #123430
    curiousss
    Moderator

    Such a good question! I lived and travelled Europe for a year and came across some interesting differences about accessing safer sex.

    – Some places in Europe had condom machines on the street which I thought was very cool and practical.

    – A lot of the time you can buy condoms from hostels and even some hotel receptions.

    – In some places you have to ask for condoms from the sales person (I found this embarrassing).

    – I was in one small town for a few nights and noticed I couldn’t find any tampons stocked in the local store!!!! That really shocked me. I wonder if they sold condoms or had the morning after pill!?

    – I had an incident where the condom came off and I needed to get the morning after pill but it was a Sunday and in the small town I was in everything was closed! (this was the UK) I ended up having to go to the emergency room and ask for the morning after pill there. Good news was it was free bad news was I had to wait a very long time for a nurse to see me.

    My recommendation after this whole experience. Stock up on condoms before you leave and have a bunch (big bunch) on you. You can also bulk buy your contraception pill and take that with you when you travel!

    #122745
    curiousss
    Moderator

    @sextronaut TOTALLY AGREE!!
    I love ethical porn! I usually pay (its worth it) for porn from Erika Lust I would totally recommend checking her out. Its really nice to see porn with women actually enjoying themselves and diversity isn’t fetishised. Erika gets it right!

    #122689
    curiousss
    Moderator

    So cool to hear everyones feedback!

    I’ve really found so far after instagram has removed likes numbers I have felt less anxious at checking how many likes I have and its made me realise how much that does affect my mental health and sense of self esteem! Crazy! However @earthMama I think I feel the same too! I post way less without being able to get that instant gratification to be honest I’m probably subconsciously less interested in posting all together now! woah!

    So true on the advertisements now I think of it @stephaniaaaah

    Also recently I’ve been on a complete phone detox since I lost my phone nearly two weeks ago (cry). I’ve found it sort of nice though to not be constantly connected and I think its really challenged me to engage more especially in those situations where we all tend to look down at our phones instead of just talking to new people. I’ve even had conversations with people on the bus recently!

    On the other hand, I’ve felt a bit lost and frazzled without having the time, google maps, messenger, my calendar and emails with me where ever I go. I now have to plan ahead for everything and write down addresses on paper before I leave the house!

    #122517
    curiousss
    Moderator

    Ahh wow @earthmama very scary! I wonder if that has anything why Instagrams has changed to no longer show likes?

    Good point about less marriages less sex @goldenrose I read an article not long ago (sadly can’t find) about how this could be linked to movements towards individualism living where more young epople are able to live lives however they chose without pressure to abide by marriage and family norms / expectations.


    @sextronaut
    yes living at home would also be a major factor i’m sure

    I also heard somewhere people even think netflix! and binge watching is affecting people have sex (haha)!

    What do you guys think? any other suggestions or thoughts about why young people could be or could not be not having less sex?

    #122449
    curiousss
    Moderator

    A had no idea how sex worked when I was young – I used to think it meant when two people hugged and kissed at the same time hahaha (sort of)..

    I only found out about what sex actually was one day when I was jumping on the trampoline with a friend who just randomly blurted it out to me matter-of-factly.

    Strange experience!

    I guess I learnt more of the terms and phrases about sex through friends, TV shows, books and my parents.

    #122437
    curiousss
    Moderator

    Oooh @lunal that looks fun! I’ve never seen a sex toy like that before. Would be great for solo and with someone else!

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