Those of you who have watched Hannah Gadsby’s Nanette on Netflix (HIGHLY RECOMMEND) will understand this reference. My question is, when your sexuality is queer, but you don’t see yourself reflected in the media representations of queer youth and Mardi Gras, and none of the labels in the LGBTQIA+ spectrum seem to fit, where do you turn?
This is such a good point. So many parents don’t realise how sanitising the name of a body part just shrouds their kids in shame and begins the inability to talk about it. My siblings and I grew up referring to our vaginas as our ‘front bottoms’. Hilarious when I write it out…
Now I speak very clinically 😛
OK @tea, @sextronaut – I AM LIVING FOR THIS SHOW RIGHT NOW! Especially episode three! Wow- to how they depicted everything around abortion. I was so moved and in awe of how bravely it was acted and directed. I love the sentimentality and seriousness, coupled with wry, tongue-in-cheek humour. And the masturbation scene episode 5!! Priceless! I HOPE…[Read more]
Hi @andymate! Big love and kudos to you for finding the courage to leave a situation that was harmful to you.
I agree totally with all that’s been said above, and would like to add a few thoughts of my own…
Firstly- it sounds like you’ve got a pretty strong sense of self. It takes a huge amount of self-love, courage and worthiness to make a…[Read more]
EarthMama replied to the topic Asking someone to wear a condom… how do you do it?! in the forum Sexual Health 1 month ago
@tea :/ :/ it’s such a scary thing! Especially when you are not particularly comfortable with the person. Isn’t the hierarchy of comfort levels interesting? We’re fine to get naked and physically intimate with someone, but the idea of being slightly vulnerable and asking them if they’ve been tested, let alone to use protection…terrifying!!!
So true about the sex @purple.
And yes, @tea! I feel like it’s harder to brave when living with family in many cases, because you have the choice to not be brave. I’ve noticed already that I am trying out new things and attending events, even taking more risks because I’ve realised it’s up to me to create the life I want. There are also less…[Read more]
I just love this thread.
My first time which was also PV, came a few years after I had initially planned. I ended up being so glad I waited because I had the confidence to ask for what I wanted and take it slow. We had a lot of trouble, as I was very tight, and I recall we ended up wasting about four condoms :/ lucky we knew when to give up a…[Read more]
EarthMama replied to the topic 'Eating Ass' and other offers that are suddenly everywhere in the forum Sex & Relationships 1 month ago
@tea offered personally! But always online/over message…
Agree with all! And am especially with you @Aunt_Flo about it being ‘in’ right now. That is my exact memory of anal. It felt like we woke up one day and suddenly it was on the table for everyone ALL THE TIME. It must come from porn, right?
I would be so interested to know if this is the…[Read more]
EarthMama started the topic 'Eating Ass' and other offers that are suddenly everywhere in the forum Sex & Relationships 1 month, 1 week ago
This week has felt overrun by heterosexual men offering to ‘eat ass’, presenting it as a skill in their repertoire. Have I been sleeping under a rock or is this suddenly cropping up everywhere, almost as a trend for heterosexual sex?
Where do these trends start? Who decides them?
@purple it is the GREATEST! I was starting to feel quite trapped in my life and like I couldn’t really grow beyond the parameters my family had set for me. I think that there comes a time where you realise you have all the tools you need and it’s just about being brave.
My lovely mum actually drew a picture for me when I was really nervous, that…[Read more]
EarthMama replied to the topic Asking someone to wear a condom… how do you do it?! in the forum Sexual Health 1 month, 1 week ago
I am fairly relaxed about asking someone to wear a condom for penetrative sex. But what about oral ?? Do you ask? Do you just shut your eyes and pretend that STI’s don’t exist?? :/
I am of the opinion that your sexuality belongs to you and sometimes we choose to share it with others, sometimes we keep it just ours. It is as indistinguishable from us as our very character, and it is ours to wield how we think best 🙂
Well, if I’m honest, it’s still going on…
I’ve tried hard to assert firm boundaries and we’ve had a productive conversation around being clear about when we are actually able to see each other. It is certainly not the relationship I want, but I can’t help remaining interested and sticking it out a little longer. I know I’m being…[Read more]
@tea I read the very first post of this thread and had so much to say about the topic of being single, but not much in relation to your new comment :P.
I think it’s lovely that you show your partner love each day, but I think there is something oddly endearing about the whole hearts and flowers display. Even when we laugh about it, there’s…[Read more]
Thank you @sextronaut, @curiousss, @GoldenRose and @tea for your excellent advice. I have been AWOL because everything just happened so quickly. I think just writing that post must have jolted the universe into action. I have spent the last two weeks signing, obtaining furniture, scouting out the area etc.
I think it’s going well so far. I have…[Read more]