Thanks for sharing! And I definitely think it’s to do with each person’s personal experiences/expectations rather than cultures/ countries.(Reckon I titled this discussion wrong – sorry!)
I think this sums it up from Will:
I think sometimes even with the best availability of free STI testing in some countries, including ours, there are still people who don’t see the need to test.
Yes! And I reckon talking peer to peer about it is the best way forward. As soon as my partner and I spoke about it openly, he was booked in for the test and sorted.
And it was soooo much easier than he thought it would be!
Hi @curiouss my last three partners I’ve met on Tinder (or before that Pof). I’m really open about it. I usually just say ‘we both swiped right 😅’.
To be honest, I reckon that it’s more unusual NOT to meet online nowadays!
@aunt_flo such a great question!
I reckon there is something to be said about sharing an experience and I think doing something you can both talk about on a first date is the way to go. Rather than just staring awkwardly at each other across a drink.
An art gallery or exhibition
Mini golf – Holey Moley in Sydney is a good call
Paddle boarding, kayaking, tree top ropes….
Even just going to the beach and people watching the surfers
One of the best dates I’ve had in Australia was Coogee to Maroubra walk at sunset followed by a swim in Mahon Pool. Loads to talk about as there’s lots of cool stuff to look at, and it’s actually proven ( I remember reading it somewhere!) that walking side by side helps to create better conversation as it’s less awkward and full on.
(he ended up being a bit of a waste of space I found out after the third date, but the first date was great haha)
@champagnepapi @tea I also had to Google it. Never heard of it! Maybe @nurse_nettie can shed some light on what it is and if it’s something we should be thinking about.
I think it’s only a good thing that people are paying more attention to their sexual health (or any health at all) but it is such a fine line between being empowered and falling victim of fake information.
That’s why government initiatives like this one are so important – I think it helps to show that you can trust it.
Such a small world, but my housemate came home last night after having her implant taken out and was in a right state. It took her doctor 25 minutes of digging around, she bled everywhere and now she has a couple of stitches and a massive bruise. I’ve only ever had mine changed in the UK (will be getting it changed in Australia for the first time in a few months). Tell me that’s not normal @nurse_nettie?! We also don’t use local anaesthetic at home to take it out – but I understand that’s practice here? Mine went in and out so easily!!
I’ve had the contraceptive implant for 5 years now and love it. I was always terrible at taking the pill and kept forgetting which just gave me a lot of stress. I like the fact that I only have to worry about it every 3 years. I got mine in the UK, so not sure if it is the same timeframe here?
At the start, my periods were more irregular but now I seem to have them a bit more regularly (4-6 weeks apart). Not very heavy though which is great.
There can be some random spotting/bleeding which isn’t fun, but for me, it’s well worth the payoff.
As a bit of an aside, I have no plans to get pregnant any time soon but my sister in law was on the implant for 7 years and it took her 3 years to fall pregnant once she had it taken out. I have no idea if the contraceptive implant impacted their ability to get pregnant, but it has got me thinking about my future a bit more. Maybe @nurse_nettie can throw some light on that for me?
@tea @earthmama it is so strange that people still think like that. I identify as female and straight and I spend a of a lot of time thinking about sex – and talking to my friends about it! Gender and sexual orientation don’t come into it.
The way I see it? It’s natural to think and talk about the things you enjoy in life. And sex is one of those things!
The second video definitely gives more to think about. I personally think the whole ‘sex positive’ thing can actually be quite a difficult concept as it’s not actually as easy as ‘just get out there, and have all the sex’.
You’ve gotta meet someone you actually want to sleep with first 😅
Good point about the masturbation too! I definitely think that should be part of it.
@Aunt_Flo Agree completely. It definitely perpetuates the myth that vaginas smell/taste bad.
EarthMama said:Agreed @Aunt_Flo! I have never once heard a conversation about the undesirable taste of a penis! And how often is the question of ‘spit or swallow’ thrown around with an expectation that it’s sexier to swallow!?
Bodies are bodies.
Perhaps if we are too squeamish about natural body functions- we are too squeamish to have the honour and responsibility of enjoying the body of another.
The bit about being too squeamish to have the honour of enjoying the body of another? Hell yeah!!
@Richa thanks for coming to the forum and asking – you’re in the right place!
@MintMilano is right. It’s pretty much a zero percent chance you’re pregnant. You were wearing clothing, and it was your butt not your vagina. To get pregnant the sperm needs to make its way inside your vagina.
@Nurse_Nettie is a qualified nurse in Sydney so will be able to put your mind at rest!
Condoms are definitely the best way to keep you safe during any sexual contact and you can read more about them on our website.