GoldenRose

@champagnepapi @yogigirl

Hi everyone, thanks all so much for your ideas and thanks particularly @goldenrose for linking that other thread.

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We ended up just not having sex because I didn’t want to do it without a condom! Unfortunately this happens sometimes but I honestly wasn’t even in the mood anymore because of it. It’s good to…[Read more]

I feel exactly the same @goldenrose! There is so much pressure on having an orgasm and when you are with someone you don’t know that well it’s hard to feel that connection and for them to know your preferences. I also find that I get in my head way too much and have an internal dialogue of telling myself I must organis and why is it taking so…[Read more]

@goldenrose

I agree with @mickymee, you’re definitely not alone in this.

I always used to have a super hard time reaching orgasm with sexual partners. However, I think its not the end of the world if you can’t come. There shouldn’t be any shame attached to it. Like, sometimes your just not in the mood to come or its not…[Read more]

Hey @potplant, I hate it when this happens! I recently had a similar experience where they were annoyed that I wanted to use one and I had to keep repeating myself. I felt like it just took all the passion and excitement out of the situation while I tried to convince him to do it. I totally agree with you @goldenrose, it’s really off…[Read more]

Hey @earthmama @potplant @goldenrose @aunt_flo, how are you all finding things a few months on? I thought by now we would be back to more of a state of normality but the pub check ins are still very much a thing! One of the main struggles i’m having is with everything feeling so regimented. I get that it’s for our safety to beat the virus but I…[Read more]

@goldenrose

How cool!

Hey @goldenrose and @aunt_flo

I am a reality TV junky so loved reading this thread.

Totally agree on dating shows having a massive lack of representation across sexuality, body types and race.

I did recently watch a MTV US series called Are you the One? (Season 8 – Come One, Come All)

Which was the first-ever season of the show where all…[Read more]

Are you talking about Dating on the Spectrum, @GoldenRose? Because that is a SUCH a good show.

I’m also a sucker for the Bachelor franchise, but the lack of diversity is pretty ridiculous, and it’s not very representative of what Australia actually looks like. There’s no excuse for it.

I remember in one particular season of the Bachelor, they…[Read more]

I’m glad to hear that I’m not the only one @goldenrose 🙂

Thanks for the advice @potplant and about being honest with it being awkward. Yes, I totally feel the appeal of just having a chat with someone over an app rather than meeting them outside, which is usually the better way to go to get to know each other more. I have been put off having…[Read more]

Thanks for your response @goldenrose, it’s great to know that I’m not alone with this!

@nurse_nettie, thanks for that info on the timeframe of when to pee, and for clarifying that it isn’t contagious – at least you don’t have to worry about pain for your partner. Its good to know that the recommended thing to do is to pee immediately – so thank…[Read more]

Hey @potplant, this is definitely a complicated situation, thanks for being comfortable to share it!

I feel like this always happens to me when I am having sex for the first time with a new partner. It’s definitely tricky to manage, and ideally, you would want to have the conversation before you are in the bedroom so you can avoid it altogether!…[Read more]

Hey @patchelor, thanks for making this post!

I completely agree with @potplant on this one, it is definitely not worth having sex just to not be a virgin. I do regret rushing into losing my virginity when I younger. I find it very admirable and even sexy when someone waits to have sex, and for the right reasons too! – always better to save…[Read more]

@earthmama @aunt_flo @goldenrose Definitely share the experience of having difficulty readjusting to normality!

It feels like life has been returning to normal in slow motion with restrictions being slowly lifted but also not really… I went out to the pub last week and it has been so strange having to sit at the same table the whole time.…[Read more]

@goldenrose Wow that sounds fascinating! Is that like divvying up what the best and worst barley and canola is? Where does the A grade vs. the C grade end up?

Sorry to hear that @GoldenRose! That’s always really difficult. I’ve had a few friendship fizzle because we had just become incompatible. It’s funny how significant change can be over time. But, I’ve also learned to look at it positively – while it’s sad to lose a friendship, it’s sort of comforting to know that I’m getting more secure in who I am…[Read more]

Just adding some yes, yes, yes to all of the above @stephaniaaaah @aunt_flo @goldenrose. I have come out to my family and friends, but because there is very little ‘evidence’ of my queerness in the form of my relationships, I feel like I have to come out again on an almost monthly basis.

How are you feeling now @goldenrose @aunt_flo ?? I was hoping I would feel ready by this stage, but after one afternoon of seeing my friends, I felt like I needed to sleep for three days…

I’m so happy you felt that way after coming out to your boyfriend @stephaniaaaah! That’s so wonderful!

That nagging voice is just the worse @GoldenRose. It’s funny – my nagging voice was always around when I was alone and thinking about how I felt. I was under zero pressure to question my sexuality, but just sort of had…the feeling I guess that…[Read more]

Agree @goldenrose :))

Agree @goldenrose :))