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[GoldenRose]

This unfortunately happens so much! It honestly kind of puts me off a bit when I have to practically beg for them to put one on.

I’ll link a similar thread below but there was some really great points raised in it which have really stuck with me. Basically just try and not leave room for the other person to say no to wearing a condom, for example saying you won’t be having sex unless you use a condom.

Asking someone to wear a condom… how do you do it?!

[GoldenRose]

So the truck driver (usually someone working for the farmer or farming corporation but sometimes it is the farmer themselves if they have a smaller farm) will come to the ‘sample stand’ where we will take a small sample from their truck using probes that vacuum it out. We then run it through a machine that tells you the protein and moisture, (high protein and low moisture is ideal) and then do another test (can’t remember exactly what) to determine the grade.

The high grade wheat and barely is used to make flour for bread and pasta etc. or to make hops for beer and the low grade stuff is used for feed for livestock.

[GoldenRose]

If I don’t pee after sex I almost always get one or if I go a long time without going to the bathroom I get similar, more mild symptoms. I know what you mean about not wanting to get up straight after but I would rather that than to be in pain later.

I’m sure your sexual partner will be understanding as it is a totally normal thing. If they seem confused or upset by you getting up shortly try explaining to them that you are prone to getting UTIs if you don’t pee after sex and that they can be really painful sometimes. After you go to the bathroom you can just jump right back into bed 🙂

I’m not too sure about the optimal time frame, maybe @nurse_nettie has a recommendation?

[GoldenRose]

I’m in the same boat as you @piperr42! I used to use dating apps a few years back and kind of got over them but now I am really considering getting back on them with everything that has been going on.

Would also love some advice and recommendations 🙂

[GoldenRose]

Hey @patchelor! Thanks so much for being so open. I love your positive attitude and outlook on sex and intimacy! You are right, being a virgin is nothing to be ashamed of no matter what your age is.

I do think it is a good idea to still get tested as even though the risk for contracting STIs through oral sex is lower than through penetrative, they can still be transmitted through oral sex.

[GoldenRose]

To be honest, at the moment I am actually looking forward to going back out and meeting new people (my mood around this kinda changes day to day though lol).

I recently caught up with some old friends and I think we are all drifting and going in different directions in life so I think I am excited to meet some new people and hopefully start up some new friendships with more like-minded people.

[GoldenRose]

Well said @earthmama! I often find my self feeling down after going on social media and seeing everyone else out having fun with different people all the time. I think it’s important to remember that people only show what they want to on social media and to try and not compare ourselves to that.

Recently I’m finding that a lot of my old friends and I are going in different directions in life and we no longer have a lot in common which is quite hard as I feel as though I don’t have many close friends and it’s quite difficult to go out and make friends, especially at the moment.

[GoldenRose]

I’ve worked at the Silos out west grading wheat, barley and canola during the summer harvest season while I was at uni and it was actually a lot of fun! I stayed with my mate who’s family is from there who I met at uni so I got to meet heaps of new people.

[GoldenRose]

Oh that’s so good to hear that you are having a positive experience @SpookyFries! I think it’s important to talk about how penetration is not essential for you and your partner to feel connected and to have sex.

Personally, I can’t reach orgasm through penetration alone so stimulation through oral and use of hands is important for me 🙂

[GoldenRose]

I love this post so much!

I really resonate with what you are saying @stephaniaaaah and @aunt_flo, especially where you said: “I’m actually a bit afraid of being confident in my sexuality, because of the nagging feeling in the back of my head that asks if I don’t actually like girls, because I’ve never dated a woman.”

I feel like it is clear in my first post in this thread that I really wasn’t confident in my sexuality at the time and I have come a long way since. I’ve recently seen a lot of TikTok videos from girls saying they’ve had the same struggles which has helped me to feel more normal and be accepting of who I am without having to ‘prove’ anything just because I’ve predominately only had sexual and romantic relationships with the opposite sex, along with the support here on the forum 🙂

[GoldenRose]

Oh that is such a good analogy @aunt_flo!

Thanks so much for sharing @stephaniaaaah I completely understand where you are coming from and can definitely relate (I’ll jump on the other post and elaborate from my previous reply in that thread :))

I’m sure it would have been hard to come to that realisation as I feel like there is a lot of stigma/pressure from society that you can’t identify as pansexual or bisexual if you have predominately only had romantic or sexual partners from one specific gender. I think we all need to remind ourselves that we don’t need to ‘prove’ our sexuality!

[GoldenRose]

Awesome! @trine Let us know what toy you end up picking and what you think of it 🙂

[GoldenRose]

Hi @trine! If you are worried about discreet packaging and it is unclear on their website, I would recommend just sending a quick email to the company and asking them what their packaging looks like. I’m sure that they would get that question all the time!

For first toy recommendations it all just comes down to personal preference. There are loads of different toys out there to chose from that all have different purposes and features. It all just comes down to figuring out what you like and what feels good for you and sex toys are great for helping you figure that out 🙂

[GoldenRose]

That’s so interesting that you say that @earthmama! I was talking to one of my girl friends the other day and she was telling me about this guy and how they hooked-up but before they did he asked if they could before doing anything and she thought it was quite odd to explicitly ask as it is not often done.

[GoldenRose]

Thanks for the recommendation! I’ve been really wanting to get back into reading and right now is the perfect time.

Honestly, the only two books I own at the moment is Scar Tissue by Anthony Kiedis (the leader singer from Red Hot Chilli Peppers) and a book about the mind-gut connection. I would recommend Scar Tissue if you love a good auto-biography, it does talk a lot about drug use and addiction as a bit of a warning though!

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