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I think this is such a great move, to remove a level of kinda of meta-judgement we put on everything we do and consume!

@tea thanks for sharing the article, and about Sam Leighton-dore! So great

I think a big part of the focus on women too is because that space for women is super monetised, like all aspects of the beauty and wellness industries. There’s been the most directed push towards women to confirm to rigid norms, so there’s also more of a push back against…[Read more]

Thanks for the video @sextronaut!

You guys are so right about profiles. I found it super useful to actually have one of my bestfriends write my profile – she could do it without any of the insecurity I felt, and she obviously adores me (like all your best friends should, and you them!) and was able to ‘sell myself’ while remaining true to me…[Read more]

@sextronaut the washed hands thing!!! begone bacterial vaginosis ahaha. Best advice ever and not heart nearly enough!

I had quite a lot of casual sex when I got out of my long term relationship last year, and I think that the things that make sex good in a relationship (intimacy, trust and communication like you said, @earthmama) can still be…[Read more]

@will Some great advice! and from @sextronaut too!

I think a really big part of it comes down to communication, which sextronaut covered really well.

– Share expectations and talk about things quickly so resentment doesn’t build up.
– Try not to assign values to things they do/don’t do (Like Will’s partner saying his not doing up the quilt was…[Read more]

The ‘medical’ side of sex, birth control, how babies are made yada yada yada was straight from my mum. She bought my younger brother and I a book called “Where Willy Went” about a very fast sperm, and had a little family read along haha. She was very clear and clinical about it, but I suppose that comes from the medical background.

@aunt_flo, @se…[Read more]

This is such a hot topic!

My dad’s side of the family do it for cultural/religious reasons, whereas my mum’s catholic side aren’t so big on it, but ARE big on baptising a baby into the church. I kinda see them both similarly in terms of making decisions for a child and consent.

I feel like when circumcision is done for religious reasons,…[Read more]

@tea thanks for this info! I’m studying nursing and have worked in healthcare for years and I still didn’t really have a good idea.

I found the video super useful – I think the fear from not knowing about or understanding something is always worse than the demystification!

Chiming in a little belatedly here…I’m on my second IUD and I L O V E it! The pain at insertion and cramping afterwards is definitely pretty unpleasant, but for me, it’s an easy trade off because it means I don’t have to worry about pregnancy for 5 years, and periods for up to three!

I actually originally got mine for period management, well…[Read more]

Back online for the first time in what feels like a million years, and this topic reminds me of a clinical trial done on hormonal birth control for men in 2016 sponsored by the WHO that made a lot of headlines due to the mood side effects reported in some of the male participants… side-effects which undoubtably suck, but have become normalised…[Read more]

This would definitely help people who aren’t comfortable talking about sensitive/personal topics with their doctor, but it also seems like there could be lots of safety issues with getting prescriptions without a proper consultation! I’m sure there are lots of regulations in place around what kind of meds can be prescribed this way, but @aunt_flo…[Read more]

Heya @butterfly01 I feel you! I get awwwwffffful period pain, and it’s like it takes over my whole lower body – from my kidneys and lower back, in my abdomen, all the way down to my knees like my groin and quads are super tight – but only when I’m on my period, or just before. It was so bad that I actually had it checked out by my OBGYN, including…[Read more]

Heya @jackh, good question

Like the others have said (@aunt_flo, Nurse Nettie and @tea), working out who pays for what contraceptive and sexual health wise is an important part of negotiation, and relationships are all about communication and negotiation!

Personally, I understand why your GF wants to use condoms as well as the oral…[Read more]

@aphrodite9 please report back if you do! 😀

@arethamorce welcome! 😀

@tea I am extremely here for this convo w no useful advice between what you said. My ex was keen to try but wasn’t keen on prep so safe to say we didn’t get far ahaha. Anyone else got more tips?

That’s such a cool thought, and I TOTALLY agree @aunt_flo that I think the whole body-pos movement has very much become co-opted by brands as a sales tool, which feels very disingenuous and actually kinda toxic (I feel like ‘self care’ has gone the same way TY ‘influencers’).

I really like how as an ideology is has a lot more room to forgive…[Read more]

@aphrodite9 that is such a good thorough answer, thank you! answered questions I didn’t even know I had, and I thought the government was coming at the change from quite a different perspective. Personally I’m lucky that I’m able to pay for tests, which I get more regularly than recommended despite being under 25 because of a family history, but…[Read more]

@ekoorb9 glad to hear he had a good experience with it in the end!

Heya @catdog, awesome question which I think personally we don’t talk nearly enough about. It’s funny, despite most of my friends being pretty sex-pos in their own ways, I think there are still a lot of stigmas and taboos talking about masturbation, at least amongst women my age. It’s definitely seen as a personal or private thing, but sometimes I…[Read more]