I’m on my second IUD! I’m a huge fan – I got on it for period control bc I was missing like 10 days of school a month (well before I was sexually active) and then got a second one when the first was finished bc I was such a fan! Removal though I was lucky – I had it done in hospital under general, because I was having some other investigations…[Read more]
@catdog that’s a really good point! I think that underlying thinking leads to some the the outdated views and stigmas floating around society about STIs and testing, and having multiple partners – that it’s some sacred, special thing. And I mean it’s different for everyone and that’s okay – but it certainly I don’t think should feel like it…[Read more]
Re: fingering, something I discovered too late (sorry fem ex-partners) for anyone who is having sex with girls – trim those nails 😂
But other stuff I wish I’d known?
– Meds can totally effect how easy it is to have sex, including your body’s ability to self-lubricate: lube is your friend!
– It definitely shouldn’t necessarily hurt the first…[Read more]
@earthmama I like where you’re going with that, and I think it’s all about how you frame it to yourself.
My accidental dry spells have kinda ended up turning into something I’ve maintained by choice – I think once you break past societal/personal pressure @purple and @curiousss mentioned, you reach the point where you can really focus on what…[Read more]
I’m keen too to hear what @nurse_nettie has to say on this one! I’ve definitely done the same thing – assuming that I/my partner were clear if we were being monogamous and one came back clean. But like @goldenrose said – some things that aren’t routinely tested for and can be asymptomatic for ages might still be transmitted. And getting HPV or…[Read more]
@goldenrose and @stephaniaaaah I totally agree with you re: people who have been trying to fall pregnant for a while – I know people mean it as a harmless joke but I think it shows a real lack of empathy towards people who may have been having trouble conceiving and carrying a pregnancy to term – something that can be draining and traumatic enough…[Read more]
I’m super curious to know people’s experiences too – I’ve been on a couple of different anti-depressants since 2014 – SSRIs and now an SNRI. I think they decreased my libido (and actually, the SSRI made it wayyyy harder to come – one of the not-uncommon side effects listed is ‘delayed orgasm’). The tricky thing for me is though is…[Read more]