I think sometimes we can take our culture where there are such positive attitudes to STI testing for granted! I’ve met lots of people from South America and some parts of Europe where they’ve just said, “testing isn’t really a thing where I’m from”. One was from Lisbon – maybe it’s a linguistic thing in Portuguese? (just kidding – but also maybe…[Read more]
Late to the party but I LOVED this episode. That man who’s been happily non-monogamous for 20 years is Dan Savage, he has a great podcast where he takes listener questions and gives sex and relationship advice.
As a gay man, I think open relationships can sometimes be abused and taken advantage of when people just want an excuse to have a lot of…[Read more]
I think it’s important to take your own sexual health into your own hands. If your partner got the all clear from an STI test, chances are that you’re okay too, but what’s the harm in being equals and getting tested together? My boyfriend and I have been together for about 18 months, we’d both gotten testing before we got together but we got…[Read more]
@tea @sextronaut haha yeah actively keeping volume to a minimum is probably your best bet. and I guess lock doors or make sure its a time when you’re not needed elsewhere or unlikely to be interrupted, as much as possible.
I was just on a family holiday with my partners family and we wanted to sneak in a quickie one morning. as things started…[Read more]
i agree with everyone else that the key point here is you’re definitely NOT being naive. these loose relationship definitions will send you in circles and drive you crazy trying to figure them out.
but what you’re describing sounds to me like a more ‘regular friends-with-benefits’ type situation: physical, respectful relationship that suit both…[Read more]
for me it depends on location. if I’m staying in a hotel or something then definitely more sex (I was just interstate with my partner at a time that happened to be our anniversary so we definitely made the most of that), but also if you’re staying with family over a holiday period then it could be a bit of a mission to find the time/privacy to get…[Read more]
I was part of the market research that did testing on some of these home testing kits! So exciting to see they’re starting to be available now.
Personally I love going to my doctor and chatting about stuff when I get tested, but this is so awesome for people who might be a little shy or not as confident to go in for regular testing. or if they…[Read more]
@tea I feel like talking and communication is important to a point, like saying whether something feels good or doesn’t feel good, or asking if they or you can do something specific, but other than that there’s not a whole real lot that has to be said? or like suggesting to switch positions or try something new, all pretty practical and useless…[Read more]
So I’ve been with my partner for almost a year now. We have a great and healthy sex life, but a couple of weeks ago I started to realise something – we’re very quiet/non-verbal whenever we have sex. We’re usually good at communicating, and we rarely fight because we can raise issues and discuss them without getting upset. But I’ve started to…[Read more]
As a gay man I basically get free condoms thrown at me! All the gay bars usually have boxes or buckets of them somewhere so that if any of their patrons get lucky they can always be prepared. I’ve heard people complain that they’re not the best they’ve ever used and would still prefer buying their preferred brand, but I guess any condom is better…[Read more]