MintMilano

Totally true @mintmilano, I suppose communication can be a whole lot more than talking too!

@aunt_flo OMG, yes the running out of things to say is something I really struggled with too! What more can I say other than “mm that feels so good” but you’re so right, little noises and things like that can be just as effective.

Sometimes things just…[Read more]

@mintmilano @stephaniaaaah Thanks so much for sharing your experiences! Hmm yeah, I think with the queer culture there’s a lot of pressure to perform/look a certain way to ‘fit in’ with the crowd. Personally I think that it’s all the quirks that make everyone so beautiful. Yesssss!!! Agreed. (Also, so cute)!

@kitkat Oh good point about the m…[Read more]

@kitkat I’m so glad you found the video useful! It really helped clear any misconceptions I had about HPV.

@mintmilano Omg what? I haven’t seen anything like that, but I don’t have a TV so that could be why!! You’re so right about it being similar to herpes in the sense of it being made out to be worse than it is. It’s not really scary at all as…[Read more]

Definitely agree that contraception is equal responsibility on both partners.

My partner and I just had this convo the other day because we don’t want kids. I said why don’t you get ‘the snip’ and he was like, ‘you know what I’ve never considered it and that’s not a bad idea’. We use condoms for contraceptive at the moment but because we are…[Read more]

OMG LOVE A DAD BOD! @mintmilano

I was just having this convo with my housemate and boyfriend the other day. My housemate was saying that seeing all of the gay clubs advertising with the toned tanned men in their budgie smugglers left him feeling excluded and it took him a long time to get the confidence to go to dance parties and get his body…[Read more]

Hey @tea! Hmm… I’ve actually helped a friends son with a school assignment on this topic recently. They were asked to create a new form of contraception for science class.

My idea was a spray on condom, like the adhesive spray on band aids. His idea (school student) was a male version of the pill. What I suggested at the time was, if a CIS man…[Read more]

Good to know @mintmilano @nurse_nettie! I wish they talked about these kinds of things in sex ed at school so we could all be a bit more comfortable with what’s going on with our bodies.

Totally a normal occurrence though, @teaser9 and like @nurse_nettie said – if there’s any pain, you should definitely get that checked out by your GP! 🙂

Hi @mintmilano @will

Thanks for sharing! And I definitely think it’s to do with each person’s personal experiences/expectations rather than cultures/ countries.(Reckon I titled this discussion wrong – sorry!)

I think this sums it up from Will:

I think sometimes even with the best availability of free STI testing in some countries, including…

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Thanks so much for clearing that up @nurse_nettie!

@superstarv I’d definitely go get tested just to be sure and like @mintmilano was saying, what’s the harm in being equal? Solidarity!

@mintmilano thanks for sharing your story! Such a great example of how non-monogamy can be super positive and not at all as negative as people might think.

@stephaniaaaah it’s SO silly but so amazing.

@mintmilano Agreed. I think it’s best to have that assurance. It may be a little stressful getting tested but I think knowing for sure is far more important and gratifying.

@superstarv I wouldn’t fret too much. Smart decision to go get tested I think. Like MintMilano said chances are that if your partner is fine then probably you’re okay too but…[Read more]

@mintmilano you sum it up perfectly with ‘honest and safe and respectful’. I have had one non-monogamous relationship and it was pretty easy because we would just be honest with each other. I have heaps of gay friends that have open relationships and they just have some boundaries around it (i.e. don’t bring the other person into your shared…[Read more]

HAHAHAHA @mintmilano I am so sorry there wasn’t proper mood music for you! I’ve had this problem before actually, where I want music on to drown out our noise or add to the mood. I’ve found making a Spotify playlist to pop on when needed is good because then there’s no scrambling around for anything!

Ohh yeah @earthmama the cosiness of the season…[Read more]

This made me laugh @mintmilano I think A Star Is Born is possibly the worst sex music of all time- weirdly a very sexy movie though…
I always feel super ‘sexy’ around the holidays too. I wonder if it’s something to do with cosiness and time off and lovely food.

Thank you so much @purple, @aunt_flo, @tea and @mintmilano !! All such insightful comments.
I feel like a huge theme that’s come up is communication being key…clearly there are as many different definitions of casual as there are people having the relationships- made more complicated still by the community or network we belong to.
There is…[Read more]

A Star is Born would totally kill the mood for me too, @MintMilano. Volume is a great tip, when I need to keep quiet I always suggest having sex on the floor. I move pillows and the doona down there and have sex on top of that – no squeaky bed sounds!

Did you know there’s a new video out for HIV awareness regarding testing? (Thanks @mintmilano)!

Ooh yeah, good point about connecting with mainstream healthcare @aunt_flo! Maybe they’ll give you information about those services when you order a test?

SPECIAL SEXY @aunt_flo hahaha I love that!! Oh yeah, lots of celebrating for you then!

@mintmilano hmm interesting point, my family doesn’t usually do Big Gatherings over the holidays so I haven’t had the issue of manoeuvring myself around that during holidays.. though I have had sex while the family has been in the other room! @sextronaut I…[Read more]

@MintMilano The footnotes this week were such a tease! Someone asked that exact question and Rocky totally deflected it. Cheeky bugger.

@mintmilano Totally a good point though! The chapter talks about all the different shapes and evolutionary theory into the differentiation shapes (circumcised v. other)

I’ll have to get the book out to quote the distinction but basically, the theory is an uncircumcised penis acts as a suction, though that’s a good point about the retraction so…[Read more]