One thing I learnt @EarthMama is to never shy away from asking for more or what you want. If you want X, X and X (even if they might seem contradictory) go for it and ask! It’s so cliche but life is too short to feel unsatisfied in a relationship, and you should maintain your expectations and standards no matter what kind of relationship it is.…[Read more]
I’m the same, just bring it up after some time or say when I have an outbreak. What does everyone think about the discrepancy between have oral herpes and genital herpes (both type 1). I think it’s really unfair how people with HSV 1 genitally might feel morally obligated to disclose but people with oral herpes do not have that same kind of…[Read more]
Amazing @earthmama do you feel like moving out has led to a lot of personal growth? What kind of stuff have you learnt? I’ll be 25 at the end of the year and my Mum says I have to move out by then, I’m kind of scared haha
I just finished watching Monogamy from the Explained series on Netflix and I found it so interesting. Pretty much they were saying that monogamy in itself mustn’t be a natural thing because we are the only (besides a species of worm apparently lol) species that actually practice it, and if it were natural we would be a lot better at it and there…[Read more]
Hi @tea! Of course ignore my advice over the advice of Nurse Nettie, but back when I was a pill my doctor said and even encouraged that I skip it, and she said just as long as you have your period three times a year (i.e. take the sugar pills) it’s acceptable.
Purple replied to the topic Asking someone to wear a condom… how do you do it?! in the forum Sexual Health 3 years, 10 months ago
Hi @GoldenRose! I totally get feeling a little awkward asking but it’s just so important to practice safe sex so the potential awkwardness just isn’t an issue for me. I tend to just wait until they’ve put a condom on and like you said, the mood is rarely lost. And yes to carrying around condoms! I’ve noticed more and more that men can be lazy with…[Read more]
Hi Shishka, I definitely think living with someone can be tricky and negotiating space/chores etc can evolve over time. It’s all about communication and understanding. If you’d like to share more on your situation please feel free to do so – I’m here to listen!
Hi tea! I love discussing new years resolutions it makes me feel so motivated!
1) drink more water
2) take an active interest in things i don’t know about (i.e. if someone tells me about something i’ll actually look it up later and learn more about it)
Here’s an interesting article regarding NYE I love -…[Read more]
Purple replied to the topic Do you have more or less sex during the holiday season? in the forum Sex & Relationships 3 years, 12 months ago
I don’t have anything to add because I’m single/don’t regularly have sex but just wanted to say that the comments here are so cute/funny/caring and I love this thread !!!
Hi @Aunt_Flo ah I feel that – especially if your partner doesn’t talk much. I feel more confident these days to talk. To be honest I had it planned in my head exactly what I was going to say and just felt comfortable with them (also had two wines – not encouraging people to drink in order to feel comfortable but sometimes it does just lighten the…[Read more]
Never had the talk! Learnt everything through sex ed at my high school which was hopeless. Honestly a lot of the time I frantically googled things. I knew I could always ask my Mum anything but for some reason she just never brought it up or sat me down to have the talk – we have open communication so it was more like I knew I could ask them anything
What is everyone’s feelings towards role play? What have you done or would like to do? I had never done it before until the other night where we did a doctor/patient type thing. It was so much fun and I can’t believe I hadn’t tried it before!
Ah @EarthMama I feel you! I have no idea if you’re being naive because I don’t really casually hook up on an ongoing basis… I’m more a one night stand or dating with the purpose of it going somewhere kind of person – all or nothing haha. but I will say that a lot of people would be looking for the same thing you are if you wanted flirting/sex. I…[Read more]
Hi! Great question. Honestly first date always coffee or a quick lunch – I find that I know within the first ten minutes if I like someone (and they if they like me) so it’s best to just do something low key at first. I used to go on dinner or drink dates for the first date and you end up having to spend the entire night with someone you’re not…[Read more]
Hi @tea thank you!!! I usually just explain what it is (i.e. I get HSV1/cold sores/oral herpes), explain that it can be transmitted via oral sex/kissing with or without symptoms (most people don’t know that HSV1 sheds – rare with medication but it still happens) and what can be done to reduce transmission. Have only had positive reactions and…[Read more]
Thank you @Nurse_Nettie I appreciate that. I do find when I tell people I get this whole “why are you telling me this because everyone has it” kind of response but I will continue to disclose to raise awareness! Thank you.