@curiousss @tea totally feeling this at the moment.
The fires across Australia are extremely unsettling. While I fully believe in using this time to rally together and demand policy changes, it’s very difficult through the paralysing images we’re getting fed daily on the news and through social media.
I’ve noticed it having a pretty huge impact…[Read more]
@tea I love period undies too! My only problem with them (particularly as someone who used to use menstrual cups) is that I can’t tell how much I’m actually bleeding! It all just gets soaked up and I have nothing to go off, hahah.
Happy New Year, friends!
I’m very similar to you, @aunt_flo, I don’t really do resolutions either, just some gentle goals to better my life in the most no-pressure kind of way.
Most of mine are around food this year too! I’d like to start eating seasonally and buying from wholesalers at markets rather than big grocery companies. I also have a…[Read more]
hey @saisha, great question!
@purple is right about testing and contraception (if you need it).
I’ve used Skyn condoms a whole lot in the past and I’ve never had a problem. I particularly love them because they’re latex free so if I had a partner with a latex allergy or they were particularly sensitive to it, the ones I had on hand were never a…[Read more]
@rodeo14 ah okay! My misunderstanding.
Doesn’t necessarily need to be your last time visiting a sex worker either if you want to go back!
I hope it all goes well for you and you can get more info face-to-face with whoever tests you
Happy Monday @rodeo14!
Like @nurse_nettie said, the risk of getting an STI from receiving oral sex is low. You should be okay, just get a check to be absolutely sure. 🙂
I totally get the anxieties being magnified as it was your first time (congratulations, by the way!) but I do want to remind you that sex is super fun and super pleasurable! It…[Read more]
That’s okay! It’s a good trick for next time.
Totally! Along the lines of caution here, some workers are actually extremely regimented when it comes to their health and safety. Many workers are very strict with condoms and get tested every few months so that they keep their body in tip top shape for their work.
Get checked in a…[Read more]
No problem, @rodeo14
It is curious, I’m sure she won’t mind you asking (if you feel comfortable). I’d say it’s likely that she was making a choice out of safety, which is never a bad choice!
Thanks for reaching out to us! There are sexual health counsellors that can help with STI anxieties and those ‘what-ifs’, there might be one in your local…[Read more]
@rodeo14 changing condoms part way through sex is safe! Lots of people do it if their engaging in anal + vaginal sex to not carry infections or bacteria between sites. As long as you were protected throughout, you should be okay. But like @nurse_nettie said, you can get an STI test in a couple of weeks to make sure.
It’s also common for an…[Read more]
Hi @eeva235! It’s true, there’s risks involved when participating in anal sex, but there’s also ways to prevent these risks and keep you safe – so you might not need to say goodbye to anal!
Sorry for bombarding! I know that when I was first starting out with sexting (which is one of my favourite past times now) I scrolled endlessly through the internet trying to find some inspiration – everything was just so corny.
So now that I have my own little reference list, I feel like I owe it to my past self to share it to the world!
My big…[Read more]
Sexting can be really daunting, I find getting into the flow of it eases my nerves the most- otherwise I just spin out by overthinking the whole thing. How do you get around the awkwardness?
How to get over nerves
“That picture you just posted… are you kidding?! You look so freaking good. So hot, omg.”
“Thank you!! Honestly I was thinking of you…[Read more]
Sometimes I need a specific reaction from my partner, here’s how I ask:
How to ask for what you need
“Hiiiii! I really want to send you an amazing nude I just took. I’d love to send it to you but I would need some extra love and compliments if that’s okay?
“Oh my gosh!! Did you know that telling you how absolutely stunning you are is one of my…[Read more]
I’d love to know anyone else’s favourite ways to initiate! Here are my go-to’s for declining and asking for consent:
How to raincheck
“I want that so badly but unfortunately now’s not a great time (ugh). Can we do this another time? I really want this.”
How to decline if it’s not your thing
“Thank you so much for asking! Sexting isn’t really my…[Read more]
There are some great tips about sending sexy photos in this thread about sexting. But, I wanted to talk about the written content of messages, specifically asking for consent and making sure everyone’s comfortable (+ share some of my go-to’s – you’re welcome).
First up- How to Initiate
“Hey, I’ve loved texting with you so far – I know…[Read more]
@earthmama it is! There’s different types, too. You can seek out erotic stories/roleplay kind of stories OR just listen to people masturbate/have sex. They’re both super fun!
And yes! It’s actually amazing.
I’ve not tried flavoured condoms in fact, I usually stay very far away from them because I’m scared the extra chemicals will give me a yeast infection – yay for a sensitive vag!
I’m so curious if the ‘flavour’ is in the condoms or just in the lube that it’s coated in.
I’ve tried flavoured lube for oral sex though, and it was actually okay! It…[Read more]