hey @saisha, great question!
@purple is right about testing and contraception (if you need it).
I’ve used Skyn condoms a whole lot in the past and I’ve never had a problem. I particularly love them because they’re latex free so if I had a partner with a latex allergy or they were particularly sensitive to it, the ones I had on hand were never a…[Read more]
@rodeo14 ah okay! My misunderstanding.
Doesn’t necessarily need to be your last time visiting a sex worker either if you want to go back!
I hope it all goes well for you and you can get more info face-to-face with whoever tests you
Happy Monday @rodeo14!
Like @nurse_nettie said, the risk of getting an STI from receiving oral sex is low. You should be okay, just get a check to be absolutely sure. 🙂
I totally get the anxieties being magnified as it was your first time (congratulations, by the way!) but I do want to remind you that sex is super fun and super pleasurable! It…[Read more]
That’s okay! It’s a good trick for next time.
Totally! Along the lines of caution here, some workers are actually extremely regimented when it comes to their health and safety. Many workers are very strict with condoms and get tested every few months so that they keep their body in tip top shape for their work.
Get checked in a…[Read more]
No problem, @rodeo14
It is curious, I’m sure she won’t mind you asking (if you feel comfortable). I’d say it’s likely that she was making a choice out of safety, which is never a bad choice!
Thanks for reaching out to us! There are sexual health counsellors that can help with STI anxieties and those ‘what-ifs’, there might be one in your local…[Read more]
@rodeo14 changing condoms part way through sex is safe! Lots of people do it if their engaging in anal + vaginal sex to not carry infections or bacteria between sites. As long as you were protected throughout, you should be okay. But like @nurse_nettie said, you can get an STI test in a couple of weeks to make sure.
It’s also common for an…[Read more]
Hi @eeva235! It’s true, there’s risks involved when participating in anal sex, but there’s also ways to prevent these risks and keep you safe – so you might not need to say goodbye to anal!
Sorry for bombarding! I know that when I was first starting out with sexting (which is one of my favourite past times now) I scrolled endlessly through the internet trying to find some inspiration – everything was just so corny.
So now that I have my own little reference list, I feel like I owe it to my past self to share it to the world!
My big…[Read more]
Sexting can be really daunting, I find getting into the flow of it eases my nerves the most- otherwise I just spin out by overthinking the whole thing. How do you get around the awkwardness?
How to get over nerves
“That picture you just posted… are you kidding?! You look so freaking good. So hot, omg.”
“Thank you!! Honestly I was thinking of you…[Read more]
Sometimes I need a specific reaction from my partner, here’s how I ask:
How to ask for what you need
“Hiiiii! I really want to send you an amazing nude I just took. I’d love to send it to you but I would need some extra love and compliments if that’s okay?
“Oh my gosh!! Did you know that telling you how absolutely stunning you are is one of my…[Read more]
I’d love to know anyone else’s favourite ways to initiate! Here are my go-to’s for declining and asking for consent:
How to raincheck
“I want that so badly but unfortunately now’s not a great time (ugh). Can we do this another time? I really want this.”
How to decline if it’s not your thing
“Thank you so much for asking! Sexting isn’t really my…[Read more]
There are some great tips about sending sexy photos in this thread about sexting. But, I wanted to talk about the written content of messages, specifically asking for consent and making sure everyone’s comfortable (+ share some of my go-to’s – you’re welcome).
First up- How to Initiate
“Hey, I’ve loved texting with you so far – I know…[Read more]
@earthmama it is! There’s different types, too. You can seek out erotic stories/roleplay kind of stories OR just listen to people masturbate/have sex. They’re both super fun!
And yes! It’s actually amazing.
I’ve not tried flavoured condoms in fact, I usually stay very far away from them because I’m scared the extra chemicals will give me a yeast infection – yay for a sensitive vag!
I’m so curious if the ‘flavour’ is in the condoms or just in the lube that it’s coated in.
I’ve tried flavoured lube for oral sex though, and it was actually okay! It…[Read more]
@earthmama I freaking love audioporn.
I thought I would report back on my experience with some of Erika Lust’s ethical porn! I’ve only watched one volume so far (there’s 10 to get through, talk about bang for your buck 😉 ). I have to say, with this porn I’m in absolutely no rush to switch it off after I’ve reached orgasm. With free porn sites…[Read more]
sextronaut replied to the topic Painful Sex, Lowered Sex Drive related to my Combination Pill? in the forum Sexual Health 1 month, 2 weeks ago
Okay brilliant! Thanks so much @nurse_nettie
sextronaut replied to the topic Painful Sex, Lowered Sex Drive related to my Combination Pill? in the forum Sexual Health 1 month, 3 weeks ago
@snapesonaplane If you’re talking about how you might experience side effects, it depends on the type of contraception you’re using but most hormonal contraception options can take 3-6 months to really ‘settle’ with your body so you can get a picture of how it might interact with your body long-term.