stephaniaaaah

Thank you all so much for your thoughtful replies @sextronaut, @earthmama, @stephaniaaaah, @paterson, @nurse_nettie, it’s nice to know I’m not alone and have people who I can talk to about it.

I recently came across a tiktok which went along the lines of “would you still be non-binary if you were born a cis man?” and honestly that one shook me…[Read more]

@goldenrose

I agree with @mickymee, you’re definitely not alone in this.

I always used to have a super hard time reaching orgasm with sexual partners. However, I think its not the end of the world if you can’t come. There shouldn’t be any shame attached to it. Like, sometimes your just not in the mood to come or its not…[Read more]

I’ve just joined this forum so thought I would weigh in on my experience as a consumer of Kin Fertility’s contraceptive delivery service 🙂

I initially began using this service in around March/April. My main motivator for this was as you identified @aunt_flo , I didn’t really want to have to go and sit in my GP’s waiting room to get a script for…[Read more]

Hey @yogigirl

I’m so glad someone has spoken about this!

I found this thread really helpful topic here Thanks to @tea @sextronaut @stephaniaaaah for the thread. With it being a year on @nursenettie may have more to add to this though.

My story is I’ve been on the contraceptive pill for the last 12 years (since I was 16), but in the last 2…[Read more]

Great minds @piperr42!

I think outdated ideas of gender and femininity definitely play a role in the way we view body hair, @champagnepapi. I remember in high school we were talking about dominant and recessive traits and seeing what one we had. One trait was hair on the fingers (close to your knuckles). I was soooo embarrassed that I was the…[Read more]

Just adding some yes, yes, yes to all of the above @stephaniaaaah @aunt_flo @goldenrose. I have come out to my family and friends, but because there is very little ‘evidence’ of my queerness in the form of my relationships, I feel like I have to come out again on an almost monthly basis.

I too have often wondered whether the best fit for my sexuality is the label of Pansexual. I relate to so much of what you have said @stephaniaaaah about not feeling queer enough if you are in a ‘straight’ relationship and worrying about how it is judged to even have a preference for a particular gender. I seem to have a gender preference in my…[Read more]

I too have often wondered whether the best fit for my sexuality is the label of Pansexual. I relate to so much of what you have said @stephaniaaaah about not feeling queer enough if you are in a ‘straight’ relationship and worrying about how it is judged to even have a preference for a particular gender. I seem to have a gender preference in my…[Read more]

I’m so happy you felt that way after coming out to your boyfriend @stephaniaaaah! That’s so wonderful!

That nagging voice is just the worse @GoldenRose. It’s funny – my nagging voice was always around when I was alone and thinking about how I felt. I was under zero pressure to question my sexuality, but just sort of had…the feeling I guess that…[Read more]

I love this post so much!

I really resonate with what you are saying @stephaniaaaah and @aunt_flo, especially where you said: “I’m actually a bit afraid of being confident in my sexuality, because of the nagging feeling in the back of my head that asks if I don’t actually like girls, because I’ve never dated a woman.”

I feel like it is clear…[Read more]

Oh that is such a good analogy @aunt_flo!

Thanks so much for sharing @stephaniaaaah I completely understand where you are coming from and can definitely relate (I’ll jump on the other post and elaborate from my previous reply in that thread :))

I’m sure it would have been hard to come to that realisation as I feel like there is a lot of…[Read more]

I think there’s always going to be people who are a bit ignorant, or who think they know your sexuality better than you do, @stephaniaaaah. It sucks that their opinion can hurt so much, even though it’s your sexuality, and you know yourself best!

I was scared for quite a while that people would think I was being silly, or seeking attention by com…[Read more]

It will be so interesting to see what happens on the apps post covid. I deleted them well before we went into lockdown as I had just had quite enough and I’m glad I did. Like @stephaniaaaah I cannot stand the excitement of connecting with someone online and then it being a total letdown in person, and I felt as if the prolonged anticipation would…[Read more]

@stephaniaaaah I absolutely love what you wrote about how you allow all emotions and that the other person holds space for that. It sounds like you work really hard at your communication and it is so lovely to hear.

@curiousss well done to you for talking it out with your partner. How great to hear that you are already having some positive…[Read more]

@stephaniaaaah amazing!! Thank you!

Haha same @earthmama, actually don’t even know that I would need 100 condoms normally lol.

@stephaniaaaah haha yes, it’s such a good show!

Oh yeah, the ‘my penis is too big for the condom’ is a very common one!

That’s a good point about condoms being needed for oral and anal sex as well, I don’t think that it is highlighted enough in sex…[Read more]

@earthmama So true about this time being a cooker pressure for relationships! Thank you for the kind thoughts.

Update!@goldenrose So far we are doing better after we had a very big discussion (I think writing this here made me realise how much I needed to talk it out with them) the other night about our relationship during isolation and how we…[Read more]

Agreed on being off the idea of not gaining weight during isolation @stephaniaaaah! It is so totally fatphobic to deny ourselves comfort during a time that is so uncertain.
@aunt_flo I am so glad you are setting those boundaries for yourself! I am also so done with all the articles about optimisation during this time. It honestly just feels like…[Read more]

Agreed on the giant red flag @stephaniaaaah !
I am also interested to find out what this time brings out in dating and agree it could give new importance to verbal communication and connection, however like @curiousss said, I would always prefer to meet up within a week or so of talking. I am struggling to understand how one could stay interested…[Read more]

@stephaniaaaah Yeah I submitted my claim with Centrelink a few days before we got stood down as a lot of our shifts were already getting cut so it should be processed by tomorrow! But I think the additional money for the COVID pandemic doesn’t start coming through until the 27th of April.

My housemates and I did our own ‘Paint and Pinot’ at home…[Read more]