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Totally interesting how language can change things @alexjameson I’m very much the same in my preferences, but I still use bisexual because I feel like it needs the representation? I think people view bisexual as someone liking x the same as y when it’s not always 50/50. Idk, it’s difficult to put labels on.

Hmm I think all bodies are different and maybe some people just can’t or need to in a different way @yogigirl Definitely something that needs more research for sure!!

Ohh yeah, I definitely have been choosing who to spend my time with more than I did pre-lockdown @explorerdora It’s something that has helped with my energy levels, because some people require more of a charged social battery than others. Does that make sense?

The power of saying no is truly something wonderful @yogigirl It’s great you’ve been…[Read more]

Oh good points here @snoo_53338! Do you think asking would be a good way too or is that too forward? I think subtle signs and body language are a good way to tell if someone is interested in you.

I haven’t asked anyone before but someone asked me what my status was and when my last test was before having sex which I thought was great! It’s something I should do more of but I just forget a lot of the time?

I’m on the hair-pulling train with you @potplant!! It’s not sexy, it just hurts! I’m sure it can be done in a nice soft way, but I haven’t had that happen to me before. I think I’d really like if people communicated more during sex, I feel like that’s a big thing that gets left out in mainstream porn!

Hey @yogigirl did you end up finding a type of contraception which worked for you? I’ve had the mirena before and talked about it over here, if you want to read a bit about it!

I’ve been off of any type of contraception for a while now and it’s been good to connect with my body in a different way. I’ve not had any seriously bad experiences with…[Read more]

How were you able to move past that relationship @champagnepapi? I’ve been in a few, intimate and non-intimate toxic relationships and it’s always taken someone else to notice something is wrong before I ever ‘woke up’ to what was going on. I found the leaving hard because I was often co-dependant too and lost a sense of self while I was in these…[Read more]

I’m glad this thread started last year, it’s really comforting to see so many stories from people and how they managed/are managing things! It makes isolation feel a little more normal.

It’s week, idk, 12? maybe more now @champagnepapi? And I am Feeling it. I live with my partner and it’s been great, I have someone to talk to and some support…[Read more]

How old is it normally @yogigirl? I started learning about consent through sex ed class in primary school, I think I was 10 or 11? This was in Western Australia though and I imagine every state has their own “this is when you can learn about consent” starting age.

There’s this mum on Instagram I follow who started teaching her kids about consent…[Read more]

Hey @yogigirl thanks for sharing your feelings about this. I can definitely relate, for some reason this lockdown has been so much harder on me mentally. Maybe it’s the uncertainty of when it will end? I’m in an LGA of concern too so it’s been hard seeing things on social media about how other areas are treated differently, or have more access to…[Read more]

Hey @balagee69 wether you want to talk or not during sex, I think either is fine as long as everyone is enjoying themselves! If talking too much is something that you’re not into, maybe you could try out other things like, moaning and groaning! There are a lot of different ways you can communicate with your partner, verbally or…[Read more]

I’ve never had this happen to me before @potplant but I guess a good way to prevent this from happening is to make sure whoever is wearing the condom has the correct size to begin with. It could be a great pre-sex activity too, trying out different types of condoms and flavours and all of that before getting into things!

sooooo not the right time and place to discuss grocery shopping.

LMAO @yogigirl yeah probably not the best place to bring that one up!!! Ooh actually, I never thought about the disconnect between body and mind in that way, of not ‘feeling sexy’ so not being able to ‘act sexy’! I think I’m the same in that way, I don’t really view myself as a…[Read more]

That’s so great to hear @moniyami! So happy to hear you were able to comfortably talk things through with each other.

Hey @moniyami, like @allthestars and @yogigirl said it’s totally normal to feel like this in a relationship, especially when you’re just starting to get to know one another. I think communication is really important here, have you tried talking to your boyfriend about it at all? He could feel the same way and it would be a great way to figure out…[Read more]