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Hey @yogigirl I hope you’re doing okay, did you make a decision about getting the Mirena or not? I hope what @nurse_nettie said helped you with your decision.

I’m just going to link you to some other threads we have about the Mirena and similar contraceptions, know you’re not alone in your situation.

IUD Removal | Implanon | Can the pill…[Read more]

Totally true @mintmilano, I suppose communication can be a whole lot more than talking too!

@aunt_flo OMG, yes the running out of things to say is something I really struggled with too! What more can I say other than “mm that feels so good” but you’re so right, little noises and things like that can be just as effective.

Sometimes things just…[Read more]

Very good point @huliana, definitely something I was surprised about too! I think a lot of people don’t know about the transmission because of the negative social stigma attached to herpes, so if we don’t talk about it we don’t know about it! Disclosing this kind of information to partners is important in stopping that spread to genitals.

Thanks so much for sharing @mapho and like @nurse_nettie you’re totally not alone in this, it’s soo common for all types of people. This actually happened to me when I had my IUD removed because my hormones were balancing back out, so I had VERY increased sensitivity and would come super quickly when having sex. I think the most important thing is…[Read more]

Woah, delicacy! @mapho that is actually one of the best things I’ve ever heard and you are sooo right because people deal with conversations in different ways!

So glad to hear you were able to openly communicate about each others’ feelings @yogigirl!

Yay for not being alone! Hydration is definitely key @yogigirl I try to increase my intake around my period. Hmm, boosting energy levels is still a mystery to me but I find changing the type of exercise I do when I’m on my period really helps! I usually climb as my exercise but I am way too tired to do that during my period so I try to walk or…[Read more]

OMG I really didn’t think you could get pimples downstairs but there you go!!! Thanks so much for the handy links too @nurse_nettie :~)

OMG yes the peppermint feeling is so good @yogigirl or anything which enhances sensation tbh!

Oh good tip about checking ingredients @alaska I forget to do that all the time and it’s so important to check because you need to be sure it’s compatible with the type of toys you’re using! Do you have a favourite brand?

Oh that sounds so lovely @yogigirl! It makes me think of couples from “Too Hot To Handle” on Netflix, have you seen that?

Hey @yogigirl so lovely to hear you’re enjoying this new relationship! Are you still together? Were you able to manage things?

I’ve had this come up before in past relationships and it really just comes down to open communication with your partner. Likely they didn’t have a good time in their previous relationships or it could be something else…[Read more]

Thank you all so much for your thoughtful replies @sextronaut, @earthmama, @stephaniaaaah, @paterson, @nurse_nettie, it’s nice to know I’m not alone and have people who I can talk to about it.

I recently came across a tiktok which went along the lines of “would you still be non-binary if you were born a cis man?” and honestly that one shook me…[Read more]

Thank you @champagnepapi and @nurse_nettie! Good to know it’s normal. With pain, I quite often will have intense stabbing pains in my left side, which happens on and off my period. I’ve had an ultrasound and there are no cysts but I think it could be PCOS or maybe endometriosis related? I haven’t been diagnosed with either, and my gynaecologist…[Read more]

Not silly at all @worriedboysure, it’s really great you’re doing your best to stay safe and informed for you and your partner!

What @nurse_nettie said about contraception is so true, that it’s great to see you talking about contraception with your partner. I hope you feel less anxious about things now.

OMG @YogiGirl yes same!!! I’ve definitely had friends who turned into more than after a while!

Did your ‘idea of your type’ change because you became interested in this guy or do you think you got closer just because of your time together?

It’s really interesting how relationships can change like that. It’s always nice when it’s in a positive way too!

Oh good recommendation @YogiGirl !

“Doing It” by Hannah Witton might be a good pick for you? Similar themes to the one by Florence. I also enjoy anything written by Clementine Ford, I always feel empowered reading her books!

A more, science-based read which I 10/10 love is “Bonk” by Mary Roach. I did buy this initially for the cover art, but…[Read more]

My BEST would be going to a climbing gym and not telling my date I was extremely scared of heights at the time! They thought I’d had a horrible time because I got stuck on the wall and was crying a lot, but I actually wanted to go back for more at the end of it haha! It’s now my favourite hobby!