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Totally interesting how language can change things @alexjameson I’m very much the same in my preferences, but I still use bisexual because I feel like it needs the representation? I think people view bisexual as someone liking x the same as y when it’s not always 50/50. Idk, it’s difficult to put labels on.

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Hmm I think all bodies are different and maybe some people just can’t or need to in a different way @yogigirl Definitely something that needs more research for sure!!

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Ohh yeah, I definitely have been choosing who to spend my time with more than I did pre-lockdown @explorerdora It’s something that has helped with my energy levels, because some people require more of a charged social battery than others. Does that make sense?

The power of saying no is truly something wonderful @yogigirl It’s great you’ve been able to identify what you need at the time and give yourself some rest.

I guess it’s important to remember that even if lockdown never happened, we would still grow and change as people. So maybe the new ‘normal’ is just us readjusting to those changes which wouldn’t be as obvious in a non-lockdown environment.

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Oh good points here @snoo_53338! Do you think asking would be a good way too or is that too forward? I think subtle signs and body language are a good way to tell if someone is interested in you.

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I haven’t asked anyone before but someone asked me what my status was and when my last test was before having sex which I thought was great! It’s something I should do more of but I just forget a lot of the time?

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I’m on the hair-pulling train with you @potplant!! It’s not sexy, it just hurts! I’m sure it can be done in a nice soft way, but I haven’t had that happen to me before. I think I’d really like if people communicated more during sex, I feel like that’s a big thing that gets left out in mainstream porn!

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Hey @yogigirl did you end up finding a type of contraception which worked for you? I’ve had the mirena before and talked about it over here, if you want to read a bit about it!

I’ve been off of any type of contraception for a while now and it’s been good to connect with my body in a different way. I’ve not had any seriously bad experiences with any kind of contraception before, but it’s always good to make an informed decision before you start anything new!

There’s some other good threads I’ll link to as well, in case you’re still exploring your options!

Mirena/IUD | Long-Acting Contraception

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How were you able to move past that relationship @champagnepapi? I’ve been in a few, intimate and non-intimate toxic relationships and it’s always taken someone else to notice something is wrong before I ever ‘woke up’ to what was going on. I found the leaving hard because I was often co-dependant too and lost a sense of self while I was in these relationships. Do you think people normalise fighting in relationships?

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I’m glad this thread started last year, it’s really comforting to see so many stories from people and how they managed/are managing things! It makes isolation feel a little more normal.

It’s week, idk, 12? maybe more now @champagnepapi? And I am Feeling it. I live with my partner and it’s been great, I have someone to talk to and some support around but wow do I miss other people. We’ve been able to keep a kind of routine going to keep some normalcy, like morning walks before work (we both WFH) and getting some chill out time on the couch to decompress at the end of the day. Sexy times have been slow because I find it hard to stay in a positive mindset during this time, which really effects everything else I do. It hasn’t been a problem for us but something I’d like to work on.

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How old is it normally @yogigirl? I started learning about consent through sex ed class in primary school, I think I was 10 or 11? This was in Western Australia though and I imagine every state has their own “this is when you can learn about consent” starting age.

There’s this mum on Instagram I follow who started teaching her kids about consent and sex when they first because curious about that kind of conversation. I think they were maybe 5 or 6? Talking about things in an age appropriate way is the important thing, I don’t think there’s any age ‘too young’ to learn.

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Hey @yogigirl thanks for sharing your feelings about this. I can definitely relate, for some reason this lockdown has been so much harder on me mentally. Maybe it’s the uncertainty of when it will end? I’m in an LGA of concern too so it’s been hard seeing things on social media about how other areas are treated differently, or have more access to certain activities.

I think keeping a routine in times like these is a good idea. It’s great you’re still exercising, it’s a great way to keep those happy hormones flowing through your body! I know it can be hard to stay positive but finding little things in your day which are good things and focusing on those might help. This too shall pass, you’ll get through this.

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Hey @balagee69 wether you want to talk or not during sex, I think either is fine as long as everyone is enjoying themselves! If talking too much is something that you’re not into, maybe you could try out other things like, moaning and groaning! There are a lot of different ways you can communicate with your partner, verbally or physically.

There’s another good thread about this topic over here if you want to check that out too! Hope it helps!

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I’ve never had this happen to me before @potplant but I guess a good way to prevent this from happening is to make sure whoever is wearing the condom has the correct size to begin with. It could be a great pre-sex activity too, trying out different types of condoms and flavours and all of that before getting into things!

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sooooo not the right time and place to discuss grocery shopping.

LMAO @yogigirl yeah probably not the best place to bring that one up!!! Ooh actually, I never thought about the disconnect between body and mind in that way, of not ‘feeling sexy’ so not being able to ‘act sexy’! I think I’m the same in that way, I don’t really view myself as a sexy person so it can be hard to put things into practice.

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That’s so great to hear @moniyami! So happy to hear you were able to comfortably talk things through with each other.

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