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Is this person a singer?

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Eh I’ve been caught once, at my place as a house party was winding down. Was obviously embarrassing but I shrugged it off. Like, my room, my house… not my problem bud!

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I haven’t used it but I have a bunch of friends who have. I guess because it’s a hormonal contraceptive, the ones who had issues with it had similar issues of the pill and stuff like that. One had it move around a bit in her arm and had some drama getting it taken out… that didn’t look like fun! I think there’s something really neat about having an implant that stops you getting pregnant though. So futuristic! So cool!

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Hm… definitely concerning! I reckon that it probably stems from issues communicating about sex with young people- e.g. not knowing how to ask for what you want, pressure to do certain things but at the same time facing stigma and shaming for it, etc. That’s just my guess though! Is this from like, talking with school aged people? Or older?

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@Kit phwoarrr, I dunno if I could stick around for that 5:1 ratio! I think I’m emotionally lazy, I would need like 98% positive to make it worth my time. I really think that still organising cute date nights, etc is important- you wanna make sure it’s still special rather than like… friends who watch netflix and boink each other. That A-Z idea is so neat! I reckon its very much a show, don’t tell kind of thing- you can say what you want to your partner, but if you stop putting in effort or doing the little things, they’re gonna feel it. Might be an unpopular opinion, but I hate that we’re expected to be texting our partner every day about nothing in particular- like, leave me alone! Drove me up the wall in my last relationship. Anyone else feel like this?

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I’ve been using Clue for 2 months, I like it cos it tracks a whole bunch of different stuff- sex drive, bleeding, sleep, etc so feels like I’m ~organised~. Then again, not sure about it making any real difference….. ‘Oh great it’s crippling menstrual pain, right on schedule! Thanks for the confirmation, Clue!!’
I reckon it could be more useful if you were sharing data with a partner though?

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@mak_trouble891, definitely worth looking into contraception, it’s a pretty common side effect, as is with a bunch of other medications. Only other suggestion I can think of is maybe buying a new toy or something if you’re comfortable with it? It can be normal just to lose interest for a while, and something new might be a sort of circuit-breaker.

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Hey @Nurse_Nettie , are cups safe to use with IUDs? I’ve seen some stuff online about it being risky but not sure how true any of that is…

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So many good points here. When I first read that article I was really outraged, cos it confirmed a lot of anecdotal stories from friends and myself about hormonal contraception and doctors invalidating women’s concerns. I still think this is a very real problem but… Looking deeper into it though, I know that most friends my age are uncomfortable, and almost scared, about seeking out a good GP, or changing doctors and finding someone good, asking for a longer consultation to talk about their concerns, things like that. Myself included! I wonder if its partly to do with growing up with the internet, maybe we don’t try and seek out these conversations irl? @Aunt_Flo , such a good point! I feel like the same thing happened with IUDs back when they had a crappy design and it was having serious health effects. They only seem to be making a comeback now- shows how powerful media can be! Will be interesting to see how long this plays out…

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Anyone else psyched for new Gilmore Girls coming out? So corny, so good…

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Omg those early ones… I can’t even deal with cheap spanx, those would kill me! Love how comfy the athletic stuff is that’s in now. Honestly though those cone bras are kind of amazing and I wouldn’t be upset if those came back in style, lol.

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P is for pubic hair

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Talking to your doctor sounds like the best advice, agreeing with everyone here. Also, maybe try and share a stinky meal (think lots of garlic, etc), coffee, whatever before kissing- If you both have stinky breath then maybe neither will notice 😀

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https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/to-your-health/wp/2014/09/10/bad-back-these-are-the-best-sex-positions-to-ease-the-pain/ this is a long read but the science looks legit! Sounds like doggy is still doable as long as your weight is supported by your elbows.

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Yeah it sounds like a really common problem, but one that people beat themselves up about too much as well. When you consider how anxious and distracted Australians are in general it makes sense that it would carry over into the bedroom. I’ve been trying to get into mindfulness for stress- takes a bit of work but its super legit- but it seems like it could work for sex as well –  http://www.mindful.org/whats-sex-got-to-do-with-mindfulness/ 🙂

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