Here's how to tell someone you've got an STI - and why you should
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How and why you need to let people know:
  • Most people want to know if they’re at risk of an STI
  • Telling someone they’re at risk is the right thing to do – and will ensure they can get treatment
  • Even if you’ve used a condom with someone you’ll need to let them know
  • You can tell them yourself or even anonymously

Who do I tell that I’ve got an STI?

Firstly, you need to think about which sexual partners – past and current – need to be informed. How far back to go depends on which STI you have and when you were last tested. Ask your doctor if you’re not sure.

How do I tell someone I’ve got an STI?

  • You can choose to inform your sexual partners yourself in any way that feels safe for you.
  • Your doctor, nurse or counselor can have a chat with you about what to say or how to approach it.
  • You can call the Sexual Health Infolink on 1800 451 624 for information and advice about telling sexual partners
  • You can anonymously send a text or email using services such as Let Them Know or The Drama Downunder
  • If you don’t feel able to do any of this yourself you can ask your doctor or nurse for help.

It can seem scary to tell someone you have an STI, but someone else can help contact them for you to make it easier

Why do I need to tell someone I’ve got an STI?

Firstly, it can prevent you from being re-infected. That’s because many STIs have no symptoms, so your partner may have an infection without even knowing. Secondly, it informs any previous partners you’ve had sex with so they can get tested and treated. They have the right to know, even though it might seem difficult to tell them. Thirdly, it helps to reduce the number of people with STIs in the community altogether. Which can only be a good thing right?

What if I used condoms?

Yep, condoms are an effective form of protection against STIs, but you should still inform your partners so that they can get tested.

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