This can include:
- Putting fingers or a tongue (rimming) around or inside the anus
- Inserting a dildo or other sex toy into the anus
- Inserting a penis into the anus
Anal sex can be a pleasurable experience for people of any gender or sexuality.
Bottom, anus, butt or arse… whatever you call it, we all have one! And just like our genitals, our anus is very sensitive and can be a source of pleasure.
Anal sex is any type of sexual activity involving penetration of the anus.
This can include:
Anal sex can be a pleasurable experience for people of any gender or sexuality.
Anal sex can be safe and enjoyable, but it’s important to approach it with care, communication and ideally, a bit of planning.
Like all sex, anal sex must be consensual, respectful, and something you and your partner/s both feel comfortable with. That means talking openly before, during and after, making sure everyone feels safe and heard. Only go ahead if you want to, and take time to chat about boundaries, protection, and what you’re both into (or not into).
To help keep things fresh and pleasant, it’s a good idea to shower or wash your anus beforehand. It’s all about feeling clean, comfortable, and confident.
You can pass on or get STIs or HIV through anal sex, so it’s important to have condoms and plenty of lube.
The anus doesn’t self-lubricate, so lube is a must to prevent discomfort, injury and reduce the risk of condoms breaking. Choose a water-based or silicone-based lube (both can be used safely with condoms) and don’t be stingy with it.
Take your time, anal play should never feel rushed or painful. The skin on your anus is sensitive and can tear easily. Be gentle and go at a pace that feels right. If anything feels off, stop, slow down, or try something else.
If you’re using toys, start small. Put a condom on the toy and make sure it has a flared base, so it doesn’t get lost or stuck. If you’re switching between anal and vaginal or oral play, change condoms and wash your hands in-between to prevent the spread of bacteria.
Yes. Unprotected anal sex carries a higher risk of passing on or getting STIs, including HIV.
The best way to protect yourself is by using barrier protection (like condoms) and getting regular STI/HIV tests. Many STIs don’t show symptoms, so testing is the only way to know for sure and keep yourself and your partner/s safe.
If you’re at higher risk of HIV, PrEP (pre-exposure prophylaxis) is a daily pill that’s highly effective at preventing HIV when taken correctly. It’s designed for people who are HIV negative but want to reduce their risk of acquiring HIV.
PrEP can be prescribed by a GP and is safe for most people to take long term.
Just remember, PrEP only protects against HIV, not other STIs, so using condoms is still important..
If you’ve had unprotected anal sex and think you may have been exposed to HIV, consider taking PEP.
PEP (post-exposure prophylaxis) is a course of medication that may prevent HIV infection if started soon after exposure. It must be taken within 72 hours and the sooner you start, the more effective it is. PEP is taken daily for 28 days (4 weeks).
If you think you need PEP, seek medical advice or visit an emergency department as soon as possible.
If you’ve had unprotected anal sex, it’s a good idea to get an STI/HIV test. Many STIs don’t have symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to get tested. Getting an STI/HIV test is quick and easy. It typically involves a blood test, providing a urine sample or a swab from your mouth, throat, or genitals, depending on the type of sex you’ve had.
If you’re having unprotected penis-vagina sex (without a condom) it’s very unlikely, but pregnancy is still possible if semen (cum) from the anus comes into contact with the vulva or vagina. To be safe, use a condom during anal sex and consider additional forms of contraception.
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