Hey @curious, it can sometimes rattle your self-esteem if you can’t make your partner orgasm – as @Kit said, we learn from porn and films that orgasms are easily achieved – in real life, it’s not the case. It sounds like you find sex with him pleasurable – if that’s the case, it might be helpful to move the conversation away from orgasming and focusing on pleasure instead. Really, pleasure, closeness, intimacy – those are the things that sex is about, rather than orgasming.
Do you think you’re orgasming? It can be difficult to explain what orgasming feels like, especially since it’s different for everyone, and sometimes different each time. It can be a small feeling of ‘release’, a tingling sensation, or a big overwhelming pleasurable feeling. Clitoral tingling, and lubrication are usually signs of arousal.