Oral sex - what is, how to do it, and how to stay safe
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Yep, we’re talking oral sex.

The official names are ‘cunnilingus’ (for vaginas) or ‘fellatio’ (for penises).  But let’s just stick to using ‘oral sex’ and get down to it.

What is it, how do you do it, and most importantly – how can you stay safe?

So, what exactly is oral sex?  

It’s the stimulation of the vagina, penis or anus by the mouth or tongue. 

Oral sex is a great way to get intimate with someone, and like any type of sex it should be fun and safe for you and the person you’re having sex with

How do you ‘do’ oral? 

This one is pretty easy: 

Tongue/lips/mouth + genitals = oral sex.

There’s no right or wrong way to do oral, though biting might get you in a spot of bother. Like most types of sex, it can take a little bit of practice, and talking with your partner to work out what you like best, how to get off, and what your partner likes best will really help. 

Is oral sex, well… SEX? 

Yes, yes it is. Sex just isn’t intercourse or penetration and can be many different things including intimate touching, sexting, mutual masturbation and oral sex. Oral sex is often the entrée but you can also have it as the main event.

Is it safe? 

Well, the good news is you can’t get pregnant.  The bad news is that you can still get STIs, most commonly herpes, gonorrhoea and syphilis.

Stay safe by using a condom if there is a penis involved, or a dam if it’s mouth to vagina or mouth to anus.  There will be less body fluid and skin-to-skin contact (which is how STIs are transmitted). 

If you want to know more, call us on 1800 451 624 between 9:00am and 5:30pm Monday to Friday to talk with a sexual health nurse. It’s confidential and free if you call from a landline.

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