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How to talk
about condoms

What to say
  • They say: Sex with condoms just isn’t enjoyable.
    You say: Is no sex more enjoyable?
  • They say: I’m on the pill.
    You say: I understand, but that won’t protect against STIs.
  • They say: I’ll pull out with plenty of time.
    You say: Nope, as soon as you’re in, it’s too late.
  • They say: They don’t make condoms big enough.
    You say: Don’t worry, they stretch! I can’t wait to see that.
  • They say: They’re such a passion killer.
    You say: Don’t worry, I’m creative.
  • They say: We’re monogamous, we don’t need them.
    You say: How about we get tested first.
  • They say: If you loved me, you’d agree.
    You say: If you loved me, you’d wear one.
  • They say: I don’t have a condom with me.
    You say: Ok, let’s go get some (or ‘It’s ok, I’ve got some’ and carry them yourself).

What if we’re in the heat of the moment?

Ideally, you should be talking about condoms long before you get to the bedroom (or bathroom/backseat of the car/wherever takes your fancy), but, if you’re having a one night stand, or the sex is unplanned, it’s not always possible.

If you find yourself in this situation, pull one out and say “condom?” before you’re about to have sex. It really is as simple as that.

Make sure you plan ahead and take a couple of condoms out with you. Here’s where you can get condoms.

Being prepared with a few go-to lines, and carrying condoms with you, means you’re always ready for sex

Will your partner think you don’t trust them?

Talking about condoms has nothing to do with trust. It’s about caring about your health – and your partner’s health. Anyone who has a sexual history can have an STI, even if you’ve only had sex with one other person, or just had oral sex.

Is being on the pill enough?

Nope. The pill is a contraceptive only (stops you getting pregnant) so it won’t protect you against STIs. The only thing that helps protect against both is condoms.

Want to stop using condoms in your relationship?

If you’re in a relationship and want to stop using condoms then that’s fine – but both get tested first. Even if you’re not showing symptoms – still get tested as many STIs have no symptoms at all. If you want to avoid pregnancy, make sure you’re on a contraceptive such as the pill before you stop using condoms.

Then, enjoy all the sex you want.

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