Whether you’re having sex for the first time or you’re about to sleep with a new partner, talking about sex isn’t always easy. In fact, it can feel pretty awkward.
Talking is the best way to find out what YOU want and what you are both thinking.
CONSENT! Every single time. Consent might be different for everyone, but it should be enthusiastic and certain. Umming and ahhing is definitely not consent.
Will sex change your relationship? Most people do think about this but it’s difficult to know how sex might change your feelings for someone. Talk after sex too, so you always know how each other feels.
Talking during sex is good. Maybe not a full on chat obviously! But it’s important to communicate about what’s working and what’s not. It’s healthy to say if you like something and if something doesn’t feel right it’s healthy to stop too. You can read more about improving your sexual communication here.