I recently met someone who I was SO sure I would never be romantic with as they didn’t fit what ‘my type’ was. It’s been such an amazing experience as I hung out with them purely as a friend and had none of the nerves that come with dating. I was completely myself from day one.
Then suddenly I realised at it actually didn’t matter that this guy didn’t fit the mould of what my type was and he was an awesome person who I enjoyed spending time with. From then we’ve been really close and aren’t putting a label on anything, just enjoying each others company with the addition of a romantic element and it’s great! We are super clear on communication and making sure there are no expectations.
Have you been surprised by someone who started as a friend or didn’t fit the mould you’d created your partner to look like? It’s so silly to put people in a box and judge them before you get to know them!
Hey @tea, I think my stereotypical ‘type’ is still very different to who I’m with now. It’s funny as the closer I become with my partner, the more attractive he becomes to me. I guess that comes down to getting to know all the aspects of their personality as well as liking them on a physical level.
It’s going so well!
Yes!! I no longer am atttacted to your typical model type. Now I like curvy figures, big bums, looks don’t matter. I also like confident, outgoing , I Mean I literally have no interest in physical appearance. I need to connect on a deeper level. Also my wife is Muslim and my ex wife is black and I’ve never dated a white woman even though I’m a white man myself. I’m a man who values sex as a vital component in any relationship so the sooner you find each other’s likes and dislikes that’s another box ticked.