I’ve recently started dating and while i’ve had some really nice dates and met a lot of interesting people, i’ve also been faced with some rejection. I went on a date with a guy who I clicked with immediately but after the date he gradually took longer to reply and I got the classic ‘I’m not ready for a relationship. You seem like a great person though!’ message.
I’m not looking for a relationship either and was really surprised and a little sad to get that as we got on so well.
What do you do to pick yourself up after a rejection? Need some empowerment and pick-me-up suggestions!
Hey @yogigirl, I’m sorry to hear your experience, it sucks! It can be a bit of a minefield, or battleground dating rn. Its important to know what’s your stuff, and what’s the other person’s, so you can separate yourself from external negativity. This one is clearly the other guys!
I think its important to have your good self care techniques built in to your life, to help with experiences like this, but also support you and your well-being generally! I think it’s unfortunate when negative experiences like this turn you off, or build up barriers to being open to relationship. You’ll be able to read yourself when you’re right to explore opportunities, and when it might be right to pull back.
Thanks @trayl_blayza, you are so right! I think I just need to focus on myself right now. I’ve decided to buy a car and do some road trips so that will keep me entertained and get outdoors. I’m definitely learning a lot about myself being single so I feel like rather than looking for relationships it’s better to look for opportunities and meeting people along the way. Sometimes the best relationships start as friendships too 🙂