Thank you so so much for sharing this @peachy! Totally agree with the whole finding yourself thing, and saying yes to all the things (within reason of course). My two-year relationship ended in December and I was a complete mess. Saying YES to things, trying new things and being myself again has been so healing. It’s been hard too though, at the start everyone kept asking me what I liked to do and what hobbies I had, and I couldn’t answer. I couldn’t answer because another person had become my whole world and once that was gone I was just a shell of myself. And 100% it should not be like that, but I feel a lot of people fall into that relationship dynamic of co-dependency when in a long-term relationship because you get comfortable I guess.
I’m still managing. I don’t cry anymore (which is great), but every day I’m learning about myself. I’m learning to find myself and be okay with just being myself and being by myself. I’ve found that doing things I was too scared to do before has helped a whole lot. I’ve really grown as a person since the break-up, so I think as long as you keep trying to work towards something positive then you’ll find yourself in a better place.