I’ve known my boyfriend for years, and we established a relationship a short time ago. A very sweet guy who loves me with everything he has and I’m 100% sure I love him back, there’s no doubt in me about that, but for some reason I feel something is wrong at the moment of show physical affection? Is not even dislike, I want it too I just don’t know what to feel when we kiss and recently had a chance to have sex, I couldn’t stop my tears I didn’t even know I was holding, I felt so ashamed for it and ruining the moment but he was so considerate and comforted me and all.
I really don’t know what to do or say to him, I know he likes kissing me and is sexually attracted to me as well as I am. Then why do I feel something is wrong when we put it ok practice? I’m scared he could start thinking I don’t like him but I don’t know what to feel anymore.
Hey @moniyami, this is totally normal in relationships, so please don’t worry. It takes a lot of vulnerability to open your heart up to someone new and can be especially confusing when it’s an old friend who you’ve recently developed romantic feeling for. At the beginning of a relationship you are learning lots about each other and feelings can be scary, so I wouldn’t worry if you feel up and down. The important thing is that you love them, which is huge and amazing! Yay for you! Hopefully over time as you get more comfortable with each other, the physical side of the relationship will become more natural.
Hey @moniyami, like @allthestars and @yogigirl said it’s totally normal to feel like this in a relationship, especially when you’re just starting to get to know one another. I think communication is really important here, have you tried talking to your boyfriend about it at all? He could feel the same way and it would be a great way to figure out what works best for the both of you. I know talking about these kinds of things can be really scary, but hopefully you’ll feel more comfortable as things grow. Hope it’s all going well for you!
@YogiGirl @allthestars @tea Hi again! I forgot about this thread, thank you so much for all your replies and help! I really really appreciate it
As for the problem, I managed to talk about it with him and it was a relief he was as lost as me. We were trying to rush things just because it’s considered “normal” in relationships, but letting that aside now we can take it easy and enjoy our company without thinking about what “should” we do just because we are a pair now. I feel talking about it made us even more closer and I couldn’t be grateful
Again, thank you all for taking the time to reply, greetings!