Hey @tea this is really interesting and great to hear.
I usually have very open conversations about contraception with partners that I am (or am about to become) monogamous with. Mainly around getting tested and the choice to stop using condoms after that. I also make sure they understand that I’m on the Implanon but that there is still a chance of pregnancy despite that.
In terms of consent around sex itself, it’s usually ‘in the moment’. I’m not much of a ‘one night stand’ person and usually wait quite a few dates before full sex. Because of this, it’s led to a few moments in bed where it’s like ‘Sooooo, I’m not going to sleep with you. But here’s what I’m up for’.
I find that being really open about boundaries is so important.
But I have to say, it’s usually me that leads the way in the conversation!!
It’d be great if everyone could be as open and honest as you both 🙂