Hi @tea, thanks for your question. It’s a really common issue & it can end up creating a bit of a negative feedback loop: you feel bad so can’t get into sex, your sex life isn’t great, so you feel bad.
What’s the solution to getting your sex drive back? From your question it sounds like you already know the source of the problem. My advice would be to address the mental health issues first. Give yourself a break on the sex front. Spend some time nurturing yourself as a whole being. If your mood is seriously low or just won’t budge, it may be time to call in some professional support. If you need a referral to a psychologist, a GP can help.
If you’ve already got that area covered, but are still struggling, I’d encourage more self care. Take the time to prioritise doing things you find pleasurable — or at least uplifting in some way if pleasure feels a bit out of reach. If you have a partner I can’t stress enough the importance of communication. Talk about what you’re going through. Talk about what feels good in terms of intimacy. Maybe cuddling & kissing is what you need without pressure for more.
Our sexuality is such a complex animal, there’s no one right solution. I wonder if other members of the mod squad or anyone else in the community can share what’s worked for them in the past?