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    mak_trouble891
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    Many women fake orgasms, but why? Is it because society tells us that sex isn’t good unless you orgasm, or is it pressure to please the person your with?
    I know personally I have faked an orgasm, but how many other people have? Is faking necessary?

    #108770
    Curiosity
    Participant

    Guilty, it has been to prevent the other person from feeling bad about their performance

    #108771
    MsBlueStreak
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    Also guilty.  

    But I’ve learned that sometimes it just doesn’t happen (for whatever reason), and honesty stops him from trying harder to no avail. I say that from the position of him being a keeper and our conversations being honest and about everything for a long time now.

    #108772
    v4wanndii
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    it might be a culture thing. I’m from Asia. We do not talk much about activities in bed. I never tell my boyfriend whether I reach orgasm, but I think I should talk from now on.

    #108773
    Aunt_FloAunt_Flo
    Moderator

    I haven’t, but at times I felt like I should have faked it when I didn’t reach climax. It obviously disappointed my partner quite a bit and I felt guilty about it, even though I didn’t think negatively towards the sex. It’s a bit of a difficult thing to decide on sometimes. 

    #108774
    RoseHill
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    I think faking wouldn’t be an issue if pleasure and sex wasn’t so orgasm focused. The majority of women won’t reach orgasm during intercourse and it takes a long time to build enough arousal and a lot of stimulation in the right area to reach clitoral orgasm – just because you or your partner doesn’t orgasm doesn’t mean they aren’t enjoying it. But I’ll admit.. I have faked it in the past to prevent a partner from being disappointed – guilty  😀

    #108775
    mak_trouble891
    Participant

    The one thing I have noticed is the common feeling of guilt and/or pressure if one didn’t orgasm. It really is sad that such emotions can be attached to sex and orgasms, especially because of misleading information and social ideas.

    #108776
    Kit
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    I agree with @RoseHill – not having an orgasm doesn’t mean someone isn’t enjoying it, but I’ve never faked. I see no reason to. If it happens, it happens and if not, oh well.

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