Hey everyone! I was wondering if anyone has had any experiences doing a ‘pronoun round’ in school or with friends/family?
If you’re not sure what a pronoun round is, it’s basically a good way for everyone in a group to get to know what pronoun to use when referring to you or another person.
I like to do this at the start of a new semester in my classes to get to know everyone a bit better and make sure I respect everyone’s preferences, whether they use he/she/they or other pronouns.
What are your thoughts on pronoun rounds?
I like that idea @tea. Maybe we should do a pronoun round here on Play Safe!
I first came across this at the Queer Space at my university. My thesis involved interviewing gay men so I went along to a meeting there to get permission to advertise in the space. I think its a great way to make sure people use the right pronouns without having any uncomfortable situations where you have to correct anyone.
@ElleBelle we can start one right now! Usually you add a few other things about yourself as you go around. Maybe your preferred pronouns and… the way you prefer your coffee (or hot beverage of choice)?
I’ll start: my pronouns are he/him/his and I like my coffee with a dash of skim milk and one sugar B)
I try to include pronouns in any icebreaker 🙂 I teach mental health first aid and always include pronouns with a few other details about yourself when we do introductions, and I’ve had people say they find it really valuable.
My pronouns are she/her/hers and I enjoy a soy latte with one sugar :blush:
I do pronoun rounds but I’ve found it’s only in spaces like Wom*ns Meetings at university and queer meet ups!
@HoneyPot I’m so so glad you include methods like this in such an important area!
I definitely think it’s great to see these kinds of activities outside of a queer setting (where I mostly see these as well), I’d love to see it integrated with sexual health education, especially for young people who may be new to the concept!
My pronouns are they/them and I love a good soy caramel latte! :smiley:
@tea that’s a really good point. I only ever see it in queer settings but it would be great to see pronoun rounds in the wider community with better education about gender.
@tea This is a great idea! And yeah, it’s a shame you only ever find them in queer settings. I went to a speed friendship night recently and everyone wore a sticky label with their pronouns on it which was really great in a getting-to-know-you setting.
My pronouns are she/her/hers and I don’t drink coffee but love a soy chai latte 🙂
@peachy I agree, I went to a queer speed friending night (may have even been the same one as you to be honest) and it was done there! It just seems to be a thing that a lot of queer/not straight identifying (for a lack of a better term) people know about, none of my straight friends know anything about pronouns.
I am also she/her/hers!
Love this idea.
My pronouns are he/his/him and I like an espresso. Strong and bitter
Mine is she/her/hers and I always go for the skim latte, no sugar.
This is an awesome idea!
Mine are she/her/hers and I don’t drink coffee!! 😮
This is awesome and we always began our Gender Studies classes like this at uni at the start of semester 🙂
My preferred pronouns are she/her/hers and I would love a peppermint tea, or almond milk chai 🙂
Him/he/etc. I am a big fan of jasmine green tea at the moment too!
I would always worry about how to frame the question but have become much more comfortable asking people when I meet them these days. Times they are a changin!
If I’m not sure I’ll usually just avoid using any gendered pronouns until I’m sure. But I think as a general rule, people would rather be asked and be able to let you know instead of being misgendered.