What would you say to someone who’s trying their hardest, but isn’t quite getting you there? Is it okay to lie to spare feelings, or should you try and break it to them? What’s the best way to bring this up?
That’s a really good question @Aunt_Flo Actually, I had this problem when I first dated my boyfriend. In my case, I just talked to him about how I wanted to be as happy as he was when we had sex. I think he felt awkward at first, but i kept on saying about how I loved him and wanted to continue our relationship for a long time. He was very cooperative. And he asked me what he should do. I think you need to start a conversation, just find a right moment, mood and words.
I always find it helpful and slightly less awkward, and can even be incredibly sexy to suggest trying mutual masturbation during sex. Sounds a bit out there but it can be as simple as stimulating your own clitoris during penetration or asking your partner to show you how they would touch them self while you watch. I usually use a vibrator on my own but when my partner and I decided to bring it into couples play it really heated things up for me!