The one word this brings to mind is confidence – I feel like the sexual landscape (masturbating, orgasm, relationships, etc) would be much more level if confidence was encouraged for women and girls. The confidence to ask, to do, to seek….. does it seem like this to anyone else?
@Kit Yess!! Totally agree. I think the whole confidence thing gets skipped over in a lot of sexual health education settings, maybe it’s assumed people will be confident if they’re having sex, or they’ll ask for what they want but that’s not always the case and can be really intimidating if you don’t know how to have those kinds of conversations with a partner.
maybe it’s assumed people will be confident if they’re having sex
I love this thought, like “if you find yourself in the situation to have sex you must automatically know all the things that have ever come before you that every other sexually active adult has had to spend a lifetime learning”. 😀 No pressure or anything.
But I think you’re right – why on earth would you know all of that and know about how to best communicate? First times are intimidating, and every first with each new partner can still be intimidating despite any growing confidence. Grown adults are still going to sex workshops to learn better communication skills with their partner!
@Kit Totally agree! Even if you’ve had sex 100 times with 100 different people, you could still be nervous about your first time with a new partner because you’re still learning about them, their body and what they like or don’t like.