when is someone physically and emotionally ready for sex?

[v4wanndii]

My teenage niece asked me this question yesterday and I was reluctant to answer. My first sex was when I was 24 (kind of late) because I think that I was not ready emotionally. It is hard for me to explain to her. has anyone been asked this question before?

[mak_trouble891]

Wow, great question @v4wanndii. I think being ready for sex, is a very individual thing. You say 24 was late, yes in todays society it can be considered late, but I think it is better to wait until you feel you are ready, regardless of your age or what society thinks.
I think there is more to sex than just the physical, emotional and sexual responsibilities/repocussions that comes with being sexually active.
I don’t really know what the marker is for being ready, but for me, it was being comfortable with the idea of sex, I wanted it and was comfortable with my partner seeing and touching me. And I was also prepared to by condoms and accepted the consequences of my sexual decisions.

[NickiPower]

That’s a good question @v4wanndii. I guess it’s different for each person, I don’t really remember when I knew I was ready but the important thing was that I arrived at the decision on my own, and not under pressure from anyone else. 

[Aunt_Flo]

I’m with @mak_trouble891. A big part of knowing I was ready for sex was organising and taking responsibility for contraception and discussing the potential consequences with my long term partner. I definitely think there is a big emotional component to being ready as well @v4wanndii. 

[v4wanndii]

@Aunt_Flo Agree. Knowledge about contraction is really important. I also advice my niece about that as well.

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