When your partners friends or family don’t like you.

[ElleBelle]

Have you ever been in a situation where the parents or friends of your partner just didn’t like you? How did you deal with it?

[CloakOfAsh]

Tricky one! I haven’t been in the situation but other than remedying the issues maybe just being civil and being aware of one another’s differing views etc might make it workable?

[Diana_1996]

My partner’s step sister doesn’t like me, which is okay because I do not like her. However we deal with it by simply showing respect to one another. Saying hi when walking in and bye walking out as an example. 

[MsBlueStreak]

I’ve totally been there with his mother… after all these years she still doesn’t consider me family, and often acts like I don’t matter/exist. (She does the same to my the partner of her daughter too). I’ve learned to stop caring, or to make jokes about it when she isn’t around – it helps that my partner finds it as awkward funny as I do.

And my partner is in the situation where my family didn’t understand him (because religious differences, and they aren’t very well informed about anything outside of the family church)

[Aunt_Flo]

I agree with @Diana_1996 – being respectful is always a good way to go. 

I think my boyfriend’s parents like me, but there’s a bit of a language barrier so it can be a bit hard to relate sometimes. Being respectful, asking general questions, e.g. how their day was has been a good way to move forward, however slowly. 

[CookieMonster]

yeah that is hard. I always had this feeling my ex’s mum didn’t like me… she always got two sets of family photos one with me one without then would get the without one printed!!! 

I was always nice and respectful to her so I don’t know what was going on there… 

Recently I found out that she has now blocked me on Facebook LOL 

I guess sometimes people just don’t like you…. 

[peachy]

Yes! In high school, my ex’s mum apparently didn’t like me in the beginning because she thought all girls were “sluts”! So strange because I hadn’t dated anyone except her son. Once he told her (a few months into our relationship) I wasn’t anywhere near ready for sex yet she was totally fine with me! The way I dealt with it then, was by always trying to frame myself as a studious and committed ‘good girl’. It caused me so much stress because I was always monitoring my language around his mum.

Completely agree with @MsBlueStreak though! Now I try hard not to let parents and friends of my partner bother me. Way less stressful!

[Kit]

Omg @CookieMonster, two sets is harsh! I guess it’s all worked out for the best…. :#

@peachy What challenging / interesting / scary stereotyping! I can see how that would have been so stressful.

[CookieMonster]

@Kit yeah it sucked but thats all in the past now thankfully!!! 

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