Ahh thank you so much @EarthMama and @Sextronaut for this thread! I’m bisexual too. When I was in a long-term het relationship up until recently, I often felt like my internal identity was being challenged or invalidated, because I didn’t see my experience reflected back in much of the dialogue amongst the sexuality-diverse community, and I didn’t have many outlets to express my queerness. I’ve actually never heard of that fold out couch analogy before but it’s so on point!
Would absolutely reiterate the recommendation for Hannah Gadsby’s Nanette! I agree with Sextronaut that online spaces where others share their experiences can provide a lot of solace. I was lucky to stumble upon some awesome queer meme groups on facebook where folk who are much more creative than I share some extremely relatable, comedic content, which I can enjoy without putting myself out there! Other times I’ve actively searched to track down spaces where I feel at home. For instance, personally I’ve found Bisexual.org and Biview.org to share some interesting articles and often tv shows or other cool cultural links that I wouldn’t otherwise have heard about. Also through a site called Meetup I once went along to a low-key get together of a small group of bifemme-identifying folk in my local area. They catch up on weekends for activities like picnics or coffee or queer cinema together. Using a platform like that might be something to try for anyone who is looking to meet like-minded folk, and it ended up not being as scary as I first thought it might be!