Heya @jackh, good question
Like the others have said (@aunt_flo, Nurse Nettie and @tea), working out who pays for what contraceptive and sexual health wise is an important part of negotiation, and relationships are all about communication and negotiation!
Personally, I understand why your GF wants to use condoms as well as the oral contraceptive pill. They’re not totally effective – only about 91%, and that 10% chance of getting pregnant seems pretty huge to me when you look at the costs and decisions you’ll have to face if that happens, which make the cost of a box of condoms seem pretty paltry!
The pill isn’t perfect for girls either – like Nurse Netting said, there can be loads of side effects and issues taking them, which can be a bit of a bummer for your girlfriend.
With regards to you doing your part by providing her with sexual pleasure, I’d kinda hope that she’s also doing the same for you? Like a relationship, sex should be a two way street with equal five and take, so hopefully you’re getting something out of it too! It seems like you guys are kinda on different pages with regards to what you each see as the pros and cons of them – like Flo said, another convo about it is probably going to help you both understand where the other is coming from and help you find some clarity.
Did you ever get the chance to have another chat? How’s it all going now? 🙂