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December 7, 2018 at 3:38 pm #120808

curiousss
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I was never given “the talk”!
I’ve heard so much about it but my parents never sat me down and gave me all the explicit details about sex.
I’m interested was anyone else given “the talk” by their parents or anyone else? what was it like??
And if not, like me, where did you find your sex information?

December 7, 2018 at 4:42 pm #120812

sextronaut
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My ‘talk’ was ongoing. I’m super lucky because my family was always open about sex and I remember having conversations about it at around 10 years old. They would just share more and more information as I got older and mature enough to handle it. I honestly don’t remember what it was like because it was so normal to me. I remember being embarrassed at times but most of the time the conversation always flowed naturally and it was no big deal. I’m so curious about other people’s experiences!

December 9, 2018 at 4:35 pm #120824

EarthMama
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I had ‘the talk’ on my tenth birthday. I had been looking forward to it for two years, ever since my sister had been given hers. I remember my parents came into my room and we had watermelon. It was underwhelming and very biological and I remember thinking… I knew most of this anyway.
I can’t wait to have kids and give them an amazing and informative introduction to sex.

December 9, 2018 at 8:16 pm #120827

Purple
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Never had the talk! Learnt everything through sex ed at my high school which was hopeless. Honestly a lot of the time I frantically googled things. I knew I could always ask my Mum anything but for some reason she just never brought it up or sat me down to have the talk – we have open communication so it was more like I knew I could ask them anything

December 10, 2018 at 2:46 pm #120847

Aunt_Flo
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I feel like mine was ongoing as well. Whenever I had a question, it was answered, and my parents made our home a comfortable place to discuss sex.

But I was never sat down and told about sex or anything like that. My sex ed at school was pretty basic, too.

December 11, 2018 at 12:08 pm #120858

GoldenRose
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I think I was about 11 and my mum bought me a huge book book that has so much info in it, I think it’s called ‘Girl Stuff’, and kinda talked about some stuff with me too and answered my questions but kinda just let me learn through reading the book!

December 11, 2018 at 2:07 pm #120863

tea
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I think it’s quite common for parents to feel too awkward to have sexual health talks with their kids tbh @curiousss! Of course, there’s always the other side of the spectrum too, I have a friend who’s been very specific with how she educates her kids about sex, answering any questions they have about sex accurately and with proper terminology! How did you receive your ‘talk’ then?

I never really had this conversation with my parents either though, I think most of the information I got was found through the internet or what little sexual health education I had through school!

Definitely agree with everyone else though, it’s an ongoing process.

There’s also a really good post over on the Play Safe blog about how to talk about sex! Also this one about consent, and another great one about talking about sex before having it for the first time!

December 12, 2018 at 11:29 am #120884

curiousss
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Yes I’m sure there are many parents out there who find it awkward to talk to their children about sex!!! not everyone is comfortable talking about it let alone to thier kids.
For me, my parents never kept anything about sex a secret from me so i was slowly taught about sex in a fairly positive and non-shameful way over time, despite never sitting me down to give me “the talk”. I actually was the one who didn’t want to talk about it that much haha I was embarrassed about a lot of things when i was younger especially when my parents spoke about sex. I would actively shy away from the topic and would prefer to talk to friends and go on the internet. How much I have changed now hahahahahaa!
I agree @tea I think an ongoing process with kids is important
I recently came across this book called Talk Soon. Talk often which is a guide for parents talking to their kids about sex. I couldn’t find the whole book online but heres tip sheet is here if anyone is interested.

December 12, 2018 at 1:09 pm #120896

tea
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Ohh what a cool resource @curiousss !! I tried to find info for parents to use too but really struggled to track anything useful down. Glad there’s something like this available!! 🙂
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