Here’s the situation. Your guy wants to try some Game of Thrones role play in the bedroom. A bit of rope play, making you ‘the prisoner’. You’re not that into it, but it really turns him on. How can you keep both of you happy?
I’d probably sit and have a talk with him about it, tell him what it is exactly that makes me uncomfortable and see if we can find a way to work around it rather than just say no from the get go. It’s all about open, honest communication. If all else fails I’d probably find myself a dragon and ride off into the sunset..
I actually got the idea from Sexpo…they had a show on stage with Sansa wielding a sword at Jamie Lannister (???).
I like your idea of being specific about what makes you uncomfortable. It involves some self-reflection and gives the guy something to work with. An unexplained ‘no’ can be conversational dead-end, meaning the issue never gets resolved.
@blithe…wait…shaped as dolphin phallus or as in actually a dolphin? I keep just thinking about that viral video of the dolphin masturbating with a fish carcass…necrophiliacs…but none the less intelligent animals!