What is sex positive?

[ekoorb9]

I came across this Youtuber called Hannah Witton the other day and she has shared two videos about Sex Positivity.

Why I’m Sex Positive

Why I’m not sex positive

I found they gave some really interesting perspectives on sex positivity and sex positive culture…

Thoughts?!

[Aunt_Flo]

The second video is great. Sex positivity is an excellent concept, but I think there’s a lot more to it or to sex in general than ‘you can sleep with whoever you want, whenever you want etc.’ Sometimes I feel like sex positivity is a little…lipstick feminist-y?

I really, really like that the second video addresses that sex positivity needs to encompass people who don’t want sex often, or at all for a variety of reasons.

Something I felt was missing in the discussions is masturbating. To me, that’s part of sex positivity. I think sex positivity largely surrounds penetrative sex, and misses out on self pleasure, which is still an important part of a sex life.

[ekoorb9]

Hi @aunt_flo

The second video definitely gives more to think about. I personally think the whole ‘sex positive’ thing can actually be quite a difficult concept as it’s not actually as easy as ‘just get out there, and have all the sex’.

You’ve gotta meet someone you actually want to sleep with first ?

Good point about the masturbation too! I definitely think that should be part of it.

[tea]

@ekoorb9 I LOVE HANNAH! I’ve been following her since before her surgery when she started her series about coming off of the pill!

In terms of the self-sex part, she DOES have a video discussing masturbation and a really cool new video discussing sex and disability!!

Totally agree with what you said about including asexuality in the sex-positive narrative though  @aunt_flo! Definitely, something that gets left out all of the time and frames sex in a way which EVERYONE NEEDS TO HAVE SEX, which just straight up isn’t true. Maybe changing the language would help, saying ‘intimacy’ and including non-sexual acts in the conversation as well would be better?

[Aunt_Flo]

Intimacy is a really good way of thinking of it @tea! Especially since touching, even non-sexual does require a consent (I reaaaaally hate being cheek-kissed by people I don’t know well – so uncomfortable!)

[ydamaris]

Safe sex is most important, with them you will forget about the dangers .. Faster try them))

[Brent]

I think that you are not right. There is no security in the escort agencies (

[tea]

I’m really excited about the content hannah has been bringing out regarding more inclusive sex – such as discussing sex and disability!

On another note though – regarding intimacy, how do we let other people know our boundaries? Like, if I didn’t want a hug but someone went in for one, how could I let them know gently that I don’t want to be touched?

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