So I’ve been having some sexual insecurities for a long time and I was wondering if I could get some advice from the ladies especially on here
So about me – I’m a 23-year-old virgin who has absolutely no sexual experience, had a girlfriend for a very long time but was long distance and we never did it. As a result, I’m really scared about whether or not a woman will actually want to sleep with me given my inexperience. I know that every woman worth my time is going to prioritise personality and a loving non-sexual relationship over just the sex, but equally, sex is a very important thing to a lot of women and men alike. People have needs and want, even just a need to connect with someone intimately, and my biggest fear for ages is I won’t be able to provide them that and they won’t be able to stay with me in favour of someone else better.
In terms of what I want from sex, I really want to have it but not just casually or with anyone, intimately with a woman I love and trust. Doesn’t mean we have to be married or even be dating for that long, just as long as it’s someone who truly loves and cares for me. I may be inexperienced but I do have a general idea of what I like, how I like to be touched etc as well as some things I’d like to try out, but I also know theory and practice are two very different things and it will take some getting used to. But I accept that totally, in fact, I’m really eager to learn from my partner and would even love her to teach me a few things if she is more experienced. I want to make her feel good more than anything, that’s where half of the pleasure from me comes from, if she tells me she doesn’t like what I’m doing and prefers it better, I won’t be offended at all, in fact, I’ll be so grateful she’s helped me. I even much prefer the idea of giving oral sex to receiving it personally for that exact reason – the idea of making her feel as good at that is incredible to me, I can’t wait to try eating pussy XD. As I said, it is all about her pleasure just as much as mine, if not more
More than anything I’m enthusiastic. I love sex, I love how it makes me feel, I love the idea of using it to feel good with my partner, to make them feel good and to connect and learn more about each other. It’s just a very scary prospect to me and I would like to take it slow and gentle at first, at least until I can start to figure things out and improve my confidence
What do you think? Do you think I’d make for a good person for someone to have sex with, and why/why not? I’m open to all feedback and just really want to improve myself as best I can. Thank you all <3