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Giving head, going down, blow jobs

Sound familiar? You’ve probably heard these before, maybe even had a laugh about the different words. Or maybe you and your friends use other words for oral sex. Whatever words you use, oral sex is when someone uses their mouth or tongue on another person’s genitals.The official terms for oral sex are fellatio, meaning oral stimulation of the penis; and cunnilingus, meaning oral stimulation of the vagina.

Many people think that oral sex isn’t really sex. But actually, it is.

Just like sexual intercourse, oral sex is personal, intimate and comes with all types of emotions. Sure, oral sex doesn’t have all the same risks as sexual intercourse… You can’t get pregnant from giving or receiving oral sex. Phew, total relief if you’re not planning a baby.

But there are still other things to think about. STIs like herpes, gonorrhoea and chlamydia can be transmitted through oral sex. Yep. It’s true. Use a condom if you’re going to have oral sex where a penis is involved. That way there’s less body fluid or skin-to-skin contact. This helps stop the transmission of an STI.

Also, you may have heard that brushing your teeth after oral sex will stop you catching an STI. That’s actually not true. It’s better NOT to brush your teeth just before or after giving someone oral sex. This is in case you irritate the gums, which increases the chance of getting an STI.

Oral sex can be a great way to feel intimate whether you’re having other types of sex or not. Just remember to tell your sex partner what you like and don’t like. And, remember, sex is meant to be enjoyable!

If you want to know more you can drop me a line at the Nurse Nettie page or ring 1800 451 624 between 9:00am and 5:30pm Monday to Friday to talk with a sexual health nurse. It’s confidential and free if you call from a landline.